Just in a bit of a dilemma. Ex and I been officially separated for over a year but he's only been out the house since mid June. DS is 24, high functioning autistic but with anxiety and communication issues. He has a good honours degree in IT but hasn't had a proper job since graduating 2 years ago. He does a couple of night shifts in a supermarket. Dislikes it but has stuck it out. He lives with me.
He's really struggling at the moment, very unhappy, he has no real social life, is either at work, sleeping or in his bedroom. He joins me for meals and helps out in the house but us just so sad. I'm trying to help him find a different job but he doesn't look motivated, doesn't know what he wants and the whole thing makes him more anxious. I know he's unhappy but failing to get any info from him.
DH has only contacted and seen him once since he's moved out. It just makes me angry and sad in equal measure.
DS needs more support but I'm not sure if there is any point asking DH to help as he's never been much help anyway but at the same time DS would enjoy being invited for his tea or out for a pint or whatever. I shouldn't have to ask though really should I?
So just debating with myself whether to ask him to message DS or not. 🤷
I've tried to see if DS would go for counselling or at least go to the GP but he is very reluctant. Breaks my heart seeing him so sad but neither he or I know what would would help.