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What would you do?

8 replies

Strugglingwithlife99 · 03/09/2024 19:33

Called off a date. Have i done the right thing?
Really struggled over the years to meet anyone that wants to actually date. Thought I'd met a great guy online who called and texted constantly for a week. We were supposed to meet Thursday but he's told me something I'm not sure about and I've called it off. He is going to work in the adult entertainment industry! He had mentioned it in the beginning but I thought it was just a possibility. Tonight he says he has tbh and definitely doing it. He says he doesn't have feelings for anyone right now, which is ok but how can i think of meeting and starting something. If this is his mindset he's not looking to date. I would feel very insecure and uncomfortable.amd not the right person who could accept a partner doing it.

Originally we were meeting for coffee but once again as they do he started suggesting a room and I said no not on the first date so I wonder if this is why he's got himself out of meeting me?
I'm so fed up with meeting people who only want a ONS or put the sex bit first. Feeling angry and disappointed

OP posts:
Justmuddlingalong · 03/09/2024 19:37

Sounds like a bullshitter.
Put him in the "bullshitters I almost went on a date with" box and move on.

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 03/09/2024 19:38

I would do nothing and move on. He's not worth your time. I don't envy you, I'm sorry. Hope you find someone.

ShouldIEvenBother · 03/09/2024 19:40

What a knob.

Onwards, upwards, forwards, OP.

Please do not second guess yourself here - you've 1000% done the right thing by binning this one.

Online is notoriously bad for decent quality men; could you consider trying to meet someone 'in the wild' as the folk say? 💐

Gonk123 · 03/09/2024 19:43

Just block him! He will come back. But he only wants one thing!

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Strugglingwithlife99 · 03/09/2024 20:40

Thanks all...I think he realised I was getting to like him and this might be a get out idea. I'm not going to say who but he was notorious in his sport for drink, drugs and has three children by different women. Lucky escape! Just would love to meet someone decent for a change!

OP posts:
Gonk123 · 03/09/2024 22:23

I am not gonna say who but I will give you some clues so you can guess. Who cares who it is…

Idontjetwashthefucker · 03/09/2024 22:34

Strugglingwithlife99 · 03/09/2024 20:40

Thanks all...I think he realised I was getting to like him and this might be a get out idea. I'm not going to say who but he was notorious in his sport for drink, drugs and has three children by different women. Lucky escape! Just would love to meet someone decent for a change!

You knew this but was still going to go on a date with him? He sounds as far from decent as possible

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