29 and worrying about being single!

[Lostandconfused27]

Last time I posted on here I had just got out of a 7 year relationship (2 years ago) and was questioning all my life choices! He was great, but we grew apart.

Now, I'm at peace with the decision I made but am also worrying about the future. I would like a family one day and the clock is ticking (or it feels that way)!

Don't get me wrong I'm having a blast, train a lot, have many friends, go hiking, own my own house, great job. I just see so many people getting married and think have I missed the boat?

I've dated a few men but nothing serious really, and the guy I most recently liked has now moved to austrailia for another year.

I am getting out and living my life, planning on a month long trip to New Zealand and Aus next December. But of course I'd love a partner! However I want it to be right, not just because I'm lonely.

Guess I'm looking for positive stories of people who were in similar situations and did meet someone?

If you’re meeting new people in a range of situations and keeping an eye open towards dating opportunities, there’s every chance you’ll meet a partner. I ended a long term relationship at 29, relocated, and had a blast for the next few years - which included dating several really excellent people who taught me a lot about what good relationships should look like, and meeting my now-DH.

Theres no “boat” for marriage btw: I got married at 37; a work colleague recently got married at 60.

I met my now DH at 32 married 34, first child 35 second 39 dont panic xx

You have loads of time OP! One of my biggest regrets is stressing over meeting someone in my 20s. I, like you had great friends, a great career and family and when I look back I find it ridiculous I was so stressed about meeting someone when I was still single at 29.. coincidentally I ended up meeting my now husband a few weeks before I turned 30, bought a house together at 31, got engaged at 32, married at 33 and am now pregnant just before I turn 34. But I consider myself young to have met and settled down. So many of my friends and work colleagues were mid 30s before they met someone and had kids late 30s and into their 40s. One thing I would definitely advise you do is get your fertility checked so you know if it's worth considering egg freezing before you're 35. You wouldn't need to rush into it but worth having the knowledge. But for now, enjoy being 29!

Also to add, don't be put off by the IVF in my name.. my husband has male factor infertility due to chemo in 20s, nothing to do with the fact I'm 33! Plenty of women have good fertility past 35!

Don't worry about being single. Worry about being married to the wrong person, wasting your best years and then getting pregnant and being stuck in a bad marriage.

Enjoy your life and freedom as a single person. You have time to settle down, with hopefully the right person for you.

Hey guys!

Wanted to feedback, in November I met a really amazing man (slightly younger than me at 28) and he has been nothing short of amazing.

Emotionally mature, great sex life, super understanding and patient-i can't fault him at all.

We're taking things at a nice pace and not rushing into anything, but he is coming with me now on my new zealand trip at the end of the year!

Thank you for all your support, I really needed it at the time 🫶

Lovely update OP.

Oh I do love a nice happy update. And I hope you both have a great time in New Zealand - I'm very jealous.