My daughter's dad is being soo awkward and has got vile and nasty. Our daughter is 16 months old and I've asked him soo many times to change his weekend shifts due to me not getting anytime to myself ever.
I have 3 boys too and they go to their dads every other weekend Friday til the Sunday but I still end up having my daughter, I have asked her dad to swap this soo I can have some me time or I can get a weekend bank job even decorate my new home that I moved into in February but he just won't allow it. He tells me he's asked his boss and that he ignores him etc I've been struggling with everything mentally because I am never child free and I have explained this to him and asked him to help me out by coming to an agreement about this for ages but as I've said he will not allow it to happen.
I've asked him to swap to the Saturday the boys go to their dads and said that he could get her after work the Saturday at 3pm and have her til 5pm the Sunday so it doesn't disrupt his hours as he always says he has to work and has to earn money, he has told me no he said he will go for full custody and get her because I am unwell and that he is now also going to stop paying me maintenance because he will be losing hours and stuff yet I've said to him it won't affect him as he will have her the Saturday AFTER work till Sunday at 5pm as he has Sundays off. He will also benefit from this too because he will get two weekends a month to himself to do what he wishes to do. He has now said he works another job and has deliberately booked in months of hours this weekend so It now seems as though I am messing with his work and makes me look like an asshole.
He only every works this other job as and when he wants and he doesn't have a contract with them, he's now deliberately done this soo he can't have her these weekends and he's also said to me what you want time to slut it about' soo the main reason for this is because he don't want me going out or meeting anyone new (which I defo don't want for a long time anyways as he's really put me off) he constantly uses our daughter as ammo, he says oh your just fucking yourself over and won't ever get a break from her, your stopping me seeing her, I'm no longer going to give you money, I'll take you to court and get her full time because your unwell, I won't bring her back and all this. I'm soo exhausted and drained. I'm currently at a family members and I don't want to go home. I'm a single mum off 4 and I deserve a break and it's really getting me down that I can't even go out and meet friends or paint my home as I'm always with my kids I get as a parent that's how it is but he's deliberately not having her those weekends when he could just to spite me.
I just don't know what to do? He keeps saying if I go to court he will get his way and it's pointless but why shouldn't I have a say ? She's with me 5-6 days of the week. It's not fair at all I'm soo sick of being mugged of by men all the time. Everything being their rules their way. I'm soo low and angry and exhausted from it all I just don't know what to do anymore.
Anyone with helpful advice is welcome but please no shitty comments and digs because I'm really not ok at the moment.