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In a rut

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e8ily · 02/09/2024 09:14

I have never posted anything like this or reached out before but I really am in a rut now, please be patient, really hoping someone can help ☹️ I’m currently writing this while crying in bed. I’m 25 & 25 weeks pregnant with my first child with my partner (26) we only met just over 6 months ago but it was instant fairy tale kind of love, I’ve felt more with him than I did in years with past relationships, he was perfect when I first met him, a proper gentleman. When we found out I was pregnant we was both so excited, but the last couple of months have been nothing short of hell. I left my home, my family, my friends, a job I loved to move closer to my partner (he makes the most money in his Job and that was the main reason why he asked me to move down) and that we could focus on building a home for our baby, we found a lovely house but he is the only name on the tenancy and every time we have a fall out he’s quick to remind me of that, pack my things and chuck me out 😣 I come back and sometimes don’t even get an apology, all I want is for us to get along, I’ve put my feelings and needs to one side just to keep that peace with him. He has started drinking a lot with his friends recently after telling me we would not drink throughout this pregnant together, I’ve been fine about this but sometimes I come back from work with him and his friend smoking weed and drinking in the living room and I just feel like he’s taking the mick now and my feelings aren’t even being thought about, I spend most of my days alone in this house (I don’t drive) so can’t really get anywhere, I haven’t got any family or support system down here, I’ve recently started a new Job which I love but no friends there to talk to.. I feel so utterly alone in this relationship and throughout this pregnancy 😞 Every time I try and tell him how I feel he goes so cold, and sometimes doesn’t even talk to me for days. I’ve been thinking for the last couple of weeks to just pack my things up and move away, start a fresh and bring up this baby on my own, I have no money or plan I just need to get out. Nothing can feel lonelier than being in this house with him, I just don’t know where to begin or what to do☹️ A part of me wants to keep trying and make this relationship work but I know in my heart he just doesn’t care about me anymore, every day I feel like I’m losing a part of myself trying to keep this man happy.

OP posts:
probster · 02/09/2024 09:17

you fell pregnant after no more than a fortnight of knowing this man?

OP start preparing for single motherhood

and this won’t be the last mumsnet thread you start sadly

focus on your baby and you. Forget the noise

probster · 02/09/2024 09:18

oh and stop with all the hyperbole and dramatics

you’re about to become a mother

Painauraison · 02/09/2024 09:22

Honestly, leave now and make a life as a single parent. It won't get better...

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