Is my friend fake/jealous (secret hater)

[Ame1924]

I've recently had a baby.. well a 7 month old baby girl (first child)

My friend already has 2 children, 2 girls, they are 6 and 13

I'm 29 and she is 31

I've started to notice a few things recently and more so since I've become a mother

So I dress my daughter really girly, pink, frills you name it. And when we are out shopping she will pick up the most boyish/ugly outfit and say "why don't you get this for baby" and ill reply that's not my kind of choice. She will say "aww don't you like it, I think that's lovely" she also picks out tracksuits that I just would not put my daughter in.. what I'm getting at is she KNOWS my taste for my daughter & the things she points out are no where near girly/frilly/pretty

She constantly tells me certain foods MY baby would love (I've started weeing the baby from y months) she's still experimenting. "Oh what you should do is this and that.. she would love that" even to the point it will be 11 o'clock at night and she's sending me YouTube or tik tok videos of food ideas for babys" and tells me over and over that her kids loved it when they were babys.

Also my and the baby's father are not on the best terms (split up) but I get on with his family great. The one day babys fathers sister (so the baby's auntie) was coming to pick baby up to spend a few hours with her dad. Said friend said to me "I don't like all that. I don't trust her" when she's never met her or had a conversation with her.

She also says "I'm sick of seeing his sister (babys auntie) commenting on your photos of the baby on Facebook.. I said why? Again she said I don't trust her.

She also once found out the baby had spent a few hours with her nan (babys fathers mum) and she said "what, you let her go over her house without you!"

I'm feeling a really weird vibe

She's a single mother her self and the children have 2 different fathers & neither of those fathers have ever been involved with her kids

I'm definitely feeling some kind of weird jealously! I could give so many more examples

What dl u guys think, am I thinking to much into it

Aha! A twist!

@ThatTealViewer thank you for brining the tea!

Op, seriously. You need a good friend in your life. Don’t start pushing her away due to your own insecurities. Be honest- if she’s suggesting clothes you’d never pick then tell her outright.

You both had babies with men you shouldnt have that was issue number one

Are you a relatively young mum OP?

If you think that this friend has nefarious intentions (which I object) toward you and your daughter, could you try to reduce the number of social encounters with her?

Sounds to be she is behaving like a big sister to me.

OP I don’t think this woman is bitchy - it sounds a lot like you are projecting your own feelings about having a younger baby on her. Have you had problems with your self esteem in the past?

As an aside, knowing what we now do about your other thread, I will point out that when I was in tow with an abusive man his number one objective was to get me to jettison my support system, particularly those people who seemed a bit more skeptical of his bull shit. Not saying that’s what’s going on, just felt it was worth saying.

You sound deeply insecure and like you're massively projecting to assume she's jealous of you. She sounds like she's trying to be your friend, albeit she might be slightly overprotective and not going about things the best way. And all you're doing is sitting at home, rubbing your hands together thinking about all the ways you think you're better than your friend and how any behaviour you don't agree with must because she's SO envious of your perfect life because it's SO much better than hers. I hope she realises how much of a class A cow you are and leaves you to it.

I think it could be fair advice not to trust people, who have form for being abusive, to be alone with your 7 month baby for hours, given your prior posts.
Your friend may have seen the error of her ways and matured enough since to see how unnecessary it is to dress a 7month old girl in dresses and frills, rather that what the baby would feel more comfortable in and is more practical for changing nappies at that age. Sounds like you might be the one lapping up attention from the wrong people, whereas your friend is also taking a big interest but trying to be helpful. You can choose for any advice you don't need to just be ignored and wash past you.
Do you have any of your ex's family or your ex in your ear by any chance criticising your friend and encouraging you to think negatively of her? You might be being nudged by others to see her in a negative light, whereas it seems to neutral people, she's not doing a lot wrong.

She just sounds like a know all to me.

If I was her I would be unfriending you, you don't sound like a likeable person