I think I have to be done

[Kimcat1]

I already know what I need to do, so not sure why I'm posting really but here goes. Currently coming to the end of maternity leave. Had saved up what I could to help but have had to spend the savings to get by each month. Husband is sitting with a very healthy savings account and makes 3 times more than me at his job (will be more than that now as I'm going part time). We also have no physical relationship (not through my lack of trying, but I've given up as I cannot take being rejected anymore. Honestly so done.

Have you tried talking to your husband about how you feel? Making you dip into your savings whilst earning plenty himself? Surely he understands that mat leave means reduced or no income for a while?

I’m sorry OP, have you spoken to him about this?

I spoke to him about it back in December, and after saying things like "we'll you knew maternity leave was coming" you've always said you want to go 50/50 so we'll need to rethink holidays" "I don't know what you want me to do" he eventually agreed to pay household bills while I was earning either statutory or nothing. But now that I'm going back part time I know he's going to want to have the discussion about my contributions again which I'm dreading as it'll be another argument. After being household bills he still has £2000 left over each month.

Thank you. I spoke to him about it back in December, and after saying things like "we'll you knew maternity leave was coming" you've always said you want to go 50/50 so we'll need to rethink holidays" "I don't know what you want me to do" he eventually agreed to pay household bills while I was earning either statutory or nothing. But now that I'm going back part time I know he's going to want to have the discussion about my contributions again which I'm dreading as it'll be another argument. After being household bills he still has £2000 left over each month. As for the physical things, I've spoken him about that until I'm blue in the face. Broke down crying last time asking what was wrong with me, and it's made no difference.

he sounds selfish. While you are earning only half of what you did, what is he paying towards? His contributions should be a % so you are both equal on the money front. Also, if there is not much physical contact, and clearly you are backed into a corner here, and I am sure you love your DH, but if this was a man you knew via a friend, and you looking in advising said friend, what would you say to her?

He is leaving you financially vulnerable and its borderline financial abuse.

There must be other things too, as finances is a tactic to hold control, what else is there?