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Narcissist came back into her life

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mradamsnaith89 · 31/08/2024 17:53

So, a woman I met online (late 20's) around two months ago - it was all great at first and we had so much chemistry. I stayed at hers a lot, and we went on a lot of dates. She told her family and friends about me too. It was genuinely like magic from the beginning.

She has medically diagnosed ADHD and Autism and she told me about this from the start so I tried to learn about it.

She also told me that she was with a narcissist before me, who ruined her credit and abused her both physically and emotionally. She said that he would often pop up every few months to try and mess with her head.

Anyways, he reached out a few days ago. She told me right away, and she told me that she was going to get her control back and block him and tell him he no longer can hurt her. She seemed back to her old confident self. Well, she didn't block him and she said she was scared and didn't have the strength. She still has a few of his things and he asked to go to hers tomorrow to collect his stuff. She said she felt guilty for agreeing to it.

She has been very quiet with me and she has told me that she needs a break from her phone and to be alone for a few days to a week. Now, I don't think the break would be that long but it is also the first time this has happened. I asked if anything had happened and she said that she just needs to figure herself out, and everything else. She then sent me a quote from the bible about having space in her heart for good things.

I agreed, and I told her that I will miss her but I appreciate her needs. My anxiety obviously causes me to overthink everything.

I feel like I have fallen in love with her but I am worried I will be hurt. I don't know if she truly likes me or if she is just going through a very confusing and depressive time. She said that she feels at rock bottom and has no worth and no control.

It has gone from the weekend gone she was talking to her parents about me, to now saying she needs to be alone and away from her phone.

I really really need advice.

OP posts:
Psychoticbreak · 31/08/2024 20:13

How many threads have you asked about this in now? I am not trying to be harsh but seriously if she is not communicating with you then she does not value you. It wont make a difference who texts her, who she talks to, how many posts you make about her and it sure as shit is nothing to do with her adhd diagnosis. It could be to do with her ex, or,quite frankly it seems she just really is not that into you. People treat you how they feel about you. If she is not communicating it is because she does not want to. Nothing you say will change that at all. Nothing.

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