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Someone tell me it gets easier

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Cobess · 31/08/2024 07:14

Split with my partner of 9 years and we have a 1 year old DS. Last night was my first night in the home I've just bought alone and I cried all night. I missed him so much and also missing my ex and our family home. I've slept about 4 hours and woken up and I'm crying again because this just doesn't feel like home. I'm regretting the breakup and just want us to be a family again. We clashed so much for most of this year and worked hard on the relationship but then called it quits in April but all I feel is guilt and regret. Looking back I think I had PND but my ex just got agitated by me rather than supported me and it became a vicious circle. He's expressed regret aswell and wishes we had held on longer to work it out, he's bought me out of the house and now owns it alone and I bought a new house and I just don't know how I'll ever feel settled here. I vomited because I cried so much, I feel absolutely empty. Wasn't sure which topic to post this under. I just want to know will it get easier because this is the hardest time of my life. We've agreed that my ex has the baby 2 nights a week and he has a great relationship with his dad so I know he's fine I just miss him so much it hurts. I'll be going to get him later this morning and can't wait to see his little face. This is the worst feeling I've ever experienced.

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shellyleppard · 31/08/2024 07:17

Op take a very long breath. You have had a hell of a lot to deal with latt. Cry if it helps to get it out of your system. It will get easier. Just going to take some time x can you see your doctor about getting some count?? Sending hugs 🫂 💐 🙏 ❤️

whymewhyme · 31/08/2024 07:19

Oh bless you, sound like you're in compete turmoil. I know how you feel, the first night without my little one was the hardest feeling in the world, I felt so lost!

If you both feel regrett, maybe you could try again?

QuillBill · 31/08/2024 07:23

I always feel awful when I move house, even if I'm moving to somewhere I've longed to live. It never feels like home because you haven't had a chance to make it a home. It's unsettling at the best of times and just the moving part would be difficult.

Ivegotaboneinmyleg · 31/08/2024 07:28

Okay, I suggest going to see a doctor and telling them exactly how sad you are. There is help for feeling so awful and nobody ought cry all night. Sending you huge hugs. 🌺

Cobess · 31/08/2024 10:46

It's a horrible feeling isn't it 😔 I've just come to get him and he's so happy to see me bless him. We have talked about that, because we've now got our own mortgages we're just trying to accept that fact that we've done that and have some time apart and see how we feel when these initial feelings die down and the dust settles a bit. I do hope we can because I think we jumped the gun will all this and we could have worked if we hung on that little bit longer.

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