Lies

[CosyUser]

Dp lied to me about his income and in doing so has eaten through my savings , I want to love him still but when I look at him I just hate him for the situation he’s put me in. Prior to this I had dropped a day at work thinking we could afford it and got a car we were meant to split but he hasn’t payed for any of it yet
we have lived together for 3 years and all our money is in one pot am I the bad person for hating him and being angry right now ?

No you're definitely not. Did you buy the car from your savings account. He needs to help you build your savings back up. Do not have kids with him. At least till you have all this sorted. I would not trust him.

Could you sell the car again and get a cheaper one? That might help a bit.

And no, you are not a bad person for feeling the way you do. He's lied and betrayed you, and you have lost your savings as a result. You'd be totally justified in feeling furious about that.

The only thing you need to be thinking about now is getting your ducks in a row and getting him out of your life.

Never trust a liar, he's betrayed your trust and will do it again. Now you've found out just make sure you keep your money separate from now on and don't lend him another penny. Then concentrate on getting him out of your life asap.

What? Of course you're not a bad person for hating someone who's abused your trust, stolen from you and deceived you!

Please move all your remaining funds to an account he can't access and chuck him out. Keep talking here if it helps.

I'd worry about why he lied op. Is it possible he's spending on other things? Lying about income in itself seems odd. I'd be inclined to make sure you've your financial ducks in a row here. And you need to agree a repayment plan for him to stick to. And I'd be inclined to do some digging as there's possibly more to this.

Have you now seen proof of his income? If not, he could have told you it is less (and gambled the rest)