Newly single mum

[Oceansmum21]

I just need someone to talk too, My now ex and I were together 10 years and due to get married next September. We have a dd aged 3 and I'm 8 weeks pregnant with our second.
My ex decided to move out 2 weeks a go because he doesn't want another baby and now he feels he loves me but he's not in love with me. He's been talking his time moving his stuff out but I found out he's dating another girl already! I'm heartbroken and very depressed and obviously angry but I dont know what to do to get myself out of this state. Every night I'm awake thinking that he's with this new girl and it hurts me so much. I need help to move on and forget him I'm just stuck on what to do.
Advice please?

I'm sorry. That sounds really awful. Going through similar if you want to PM

That sounds awful but please don’t think he’s gone into a rosy relationship. Imagine dating someone who has a pregnant wife! You’d either be furious or if you thought it’s okay - you must have very low self esteem and that doesn’t create a good partnership. He is not a catch, he’s a c**t. You’ll be okay. It doesn’t feel it now but it will. My best friend is a single mum to three kids with different dads. She found out father of second child was cheating when she was pregnant, she is a high flight, married to a gorgeous wealthy (although she’d of married him regardless) man who is not the father to any of her kids but loves them as his own. Your life’s not over x

She’s also the strongest high flying happiest woman I know. Your ex is an arsehole, x

Try to focus your attention on looking after yourself and your little one right now rather than analysing what went wrong with your ex. He was probably with the other person before he left.

What do you want to happen now?
Xx

Being a single mum is the best thing that happened to me, my ex cheated and I thought my life was over but 3yrs on and I am very grateful not to be with him.

You will be ok x

You will get through this but right now you are still in shock and disbelief plus all the hormones will be flying around. The fact he is dating someone already would make me wonder about their timeline and I hate to say it but you might need a STI check.
Is your 2 year old in nursery? Has your ex discussed maintenance, he will still have to pay for both of his children. Are you working? If so can you take a bit of time off work to just rest for a few days and tell him to get his shit out of the house asap. He ended the relationship so he can't just keep waltzing over to get bits when he feels like it. That's not fair on you at all. You can and will be ok. Don't do the pick me dance, he's shown you what he is. I am so sorry he is being a shit