opinions please?

[imjustamom]

Hi, so this is probably gonna sound ridiculous for some people but it does really affect me and hurts. My partner constantly masturbates to other women on the internet. Not just famous hos but actual people from our city that he finds on social media. it makes me feel sick and disgusting when i look in the mirror, and i don’t wanna believe i am that bad as i try to take care of myself. i recently gave birth less than a year ago but this as been going on since before i even got pregnant. What makes it even worse is he is so addicted to just masturbation for a screen, that he can’t even ejaculate from normal sex with me. He doesn’t cheat on me physically with no one but this sensitive topic for me makes me feel like this is cheating. Even tho apparently from what i see this is man’s nature and we shouldn’t feel offended by it i can’t help it but feel inferior and really sick every time i think about it, I’ve asked him to stop (same thing as speaking to a wall) but nothing changes i always catch something. i don’t know what to do, when this comes to my head i don’t even wanna look into his face. He doesn’t make me feel appreciated. im not the best looking out there but i don’t think of myself as the worst either, i just think some respect from him would be good since i carried his seed in me, and he keeps his behaviour anyway. We argue numerous of times and deep down i wanna leave but unfortunately we have a whole life together that seems hard to just do it. We still young below 30s but i feel like if im still young and he doesn’t appreciate me imagine when im older this is never gonna stop, i want someone who desires me, not someone who desires other random woman and doesn’t even ejaculate for me, never. every time i try to just end this. shouldn’t we feel sexy to our partner? feel wanted? cause it’s not the case in our situation. it made me lose all interest on him as a consequence. i’ve tried everything nothing seems to work so im tired of trying. This world has gone so mad that every social media you open there’s half naked woman in your screen. how low is that. i know it’s not the women fault in this situation is my perverted partner who can’t control himself but i think it just makes it worse knowing you find anything online so easily this days.
Any opinions on this? please just don’t be rude to me im just trying to know what different people think of this should i just leave or accept this?

Do not accept this , it's so so disrespectful and will have your confidence in tatters . You would be better off alone with your baby .

He is perverted, as you say, rubbish partner, sexually ill and this is perhaps only the beginning of that not so nice list. Why do you need this?! Don't

LTB

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with masturbation, everybody does it, but if he is at the point where it is impacting your sex life to the extent he can’t even finish when having sex with an actual human, his partner, then it’s quite obviously gone too far.

I don’t know where you go from there though other than to walk away. He won’t stop, so I suppose it’s up to you where you go from here.

Oh crikey. This is a tough one. If it was something you were unhappy with before your lives were so enmeshed and having a child, you probably should have done something about it back then. I don’t know what the answer is here but he sounds in deep. Does he know how it makes you feel? Have you voiced all of this to him?

He won't change. Accept or leave.

I suggest you leave.

Hos? Are you Snoop Dog?

Maybe ultimatum time? You could say, it hurts me that you do this, then describe the roles reversed, eg if you were doing the same with random videos and not with him, ask how he'd feel about that?

I'd say you need to sort this out in the next month (or at least show he's made progress) or that's the end for me.