Adultwork site

[MyPlumReader]

I have found history on my husbands phone from this site. What is it?

@HazelPlayer To each their own. Enjoy your snooping and lack of communication.

I really appreciate all the comments and I take on board what everyone says. I don’t think anyone is giving false advice. I came on here to get answers for myself as I don’t have anyone I can talk to about this. I was looking for advice/ clarification in what I feel myself without going overboard. I’m the sort of person that mulls things over and don’t jump in feet first. That may be wrong or right. Sometimes it’s good to hear things you maybe have thought but don’t want to be right. Yes I’m silly and I do know we put to bed the other things but I would never have looked at his phone if he hadn’t done the things he did. He made me suspicious and he only has himself to blame for that. I don’t like doing it but it eats you up thinking and not knowing when I know he will not tell me outright. You know when little things happen. My husband is a shy man who doesn’t like confrontation but as one of you had said if the shoe was on the other foot I wonder what the outcome would have been.

Regarding payments on Adultwork: there are two ways that users can pay. They can buy credits, which they can then use to access galleries or cam girls via the site. The purchase of these credits show up on bank statements as "awork". If men are arranging face-to-face meetings, then they usually pay in cash.

Also, does he have a messaging app called Kik? A lot of punters use that to arrange appointments

As far as I know Adultwork doesn't come up as a pop-up on porn sites.

Adultwork is basically a site for sex workers to offer their services. They will have profile pictures that are free to view (mainly topless or in underwear and sometimes nude). They may also offer pictures that you have to pay for (say £3 for 24 hours) which are more explicit and also may offer pre recorded videos (costs a bit more than the private pictures). To view the payable ones you need to have an account (free). If you dont see any payments coming out from your account for these small amounts then I'd say he's just browsing.

Porn is a different matter in my mind. The vast majority of men watch porn and I can categorically say it's not because they dont love their wife or partner and also not because they dont find them attractive. Men (and women) just like to get turned on & also want some stimulation before masturbating. Masturbation is quick & easy and it doesn't involve having to please your partner. It's completely different to being intimate with your partner. Also you can look at things that turn you on that your partner wouldn't want to participate in....like rimming, watersports or BDSM.

My advice to you @MyPlumReader is to talk to your husband about porn & let him know its acceptable for him to watch it. There was a poster on here recently who kept finding porn on her husbands phone even though (she said) he had agreed not to view it. This was over a period of 10 years and she couldn't understand why he agreed not to watch porn only to start viewing it again. The simple answer is he wanted to say what she wanted to hear rather than tell the truth.

Obviously it its not acceptable to you then that's a different story & you'll probably have to split up because I dont think he'll stop viewing it. The Adultwork stuff is different but from what you've said he's probably just browsing......more titillation than anything. More the women next door than watching a porn star.

I have seen no evidence of any application like that.

Enjoy being deceived by cheaters.

My advice to you * is to talk to your husband about porn & let him know its acceptable for him to watch it. There was a poster on here recently who kept finding porn on her husbands phone even though (she said) he had agreed not to view it. This was over a period of 10 years and she couldn't understand why he agreed not to watch porn only to start viewing it again. The simple answer is he wanted to say what she wanted to hear rather than tell the truth.

Obviously it its not acceptable to you then that's a different story & you'll probably have to split up because I dont think he'll stop viewing it. The Adultwork stuff is different but from what you've said he's probably just browsing......more titillation than anything. More the women next door than watching a porn star.*

How would you know what he's doing or not doing on Adult work?

Ateotd it's a sex service site.

Re. the porn, it's obvious he's a user and just lies about it. If you're not ok with porn use, he's not the man for you.

a few years ago I found out my husband was chatting to girls online. Stupid silly flirting.

I'm genuinely not trying to be provocative or hurtful but how is he a "shy man" if he's done the above?

Thank you everyone for taking the time to message. You have all given me food for thought.

HazelPlayer.
yes you are right no shy man would do that. Need to give my head a wobble big time.

Why am I making excuses for all this. Like many of you have said I think a conversation is needed no matter how hurtful or embarrassing it is.

He lost any expectation of privacy when he began using the site.

Do you really believe he'd make a full confession if she asked?

No he wouldn’t there would be some excuse. Plus a big apology and all the rest that comes with it. Everyone has different opinions about porn etc. I just have trouble getting my head around why. Yes I’m sure some will say I’m a prude but I’m not I just don’t understand why.

Because she's not one of the adult workers, @Roldep. Are you?

i won’t even reply to that

does any man own up to renting women by the hour?

There is a line. Porn is will fantasy stuff, if your relationship is healthy then that’s fine. We learn to self pleasure very early and being married shouldn’t mean you’re not allowed to carry on. It’s a wonderful part of you time.

The adult work could be just being inquisitive. I’ve looked at them around here and can’t believe how decent they all look. But I did have a look around.

however, chatting to women online is unacceptable and as a grown adult he knows this is wrong. If he’s going further than solo wank material then it needs to be a firm discussion.

This is a platform for working girls/call girls

He's on Adultworks. It's not known for porn as much as for finding and reviewing sex workers. It DOES mean something and @MyPlumReader , as much as I hate to say it, you should worry.

Oh, and get tested soon as. ♥️

Sorry. I see this is from August. @MyPlumReader I hope you're okay.