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New Relationship after 14years

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BunnyLily · 30/08/2024 20:08

I’ve been separated for over a year. He was basically unfaithful with prostitutes a number of times and god knows what else! Anyway he’s moved on to someone else and the girls have met her and her kids. She seems ok.
I have been on a few dates, met someone I quite like and he’s keen, I haven’t actually kissed anyone apart from this one man and to be honest I didn’t enjoy it at all. I look at him and fancy him but the sexual attraction isn’t there. He ticks a lot of boxes and we get on really well - I don’t know if it’s because of my last experience with my x that I’m backing away or that I just don’t fancy him that much. I’m in a dilemma of what to do.. any advice appreciated as I haven’t had experience with another man for years!

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Claire903 · 30/08/2024 20:14

Listen to your instincts

username44416 · 30/08/2024 20:22

Move on. Cher is never wrong.

Opentooffers · 30/08/2024 20:27

Could it be how he kisses? Men have a variety of styles and I find that some are definitely better at it than others, or more compatible with how I like it would be more accurate.

HoHoHoliday · 30/08/2024 20:32

It's possible to think someone is attractive but not actually be attracted to them. I wonder if that's where you are with him?

Perhaps you want to be attracted to him, you want to be in a new relationship, because your ex has moved on?

Chemistry counts for a lot more than ticking boxes. If you don't enjoy kissing him there's no chemistry. Let him go.

You might not be ready to move on to a new relationship yet. You've written more in your post about your ex and his new relationship than you've written about yourself. Give yourself more time.

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BunnyLily · 30/08/2024 20:38

Thanks all. I really want to find someone special and have met up with a few men but they just end up wanting sex! I want to form a relationship first. Been looking at dating apps but they so expensive!! This guy is kind and genuine, really don’t think there is anything there though but my instinct has been wrong in the past. The kiss was all tongues and felt really slimy 😂😂🙈🙈 didn’t know if it was me not being used to kissing other men or just that I wasn’t that into him x

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