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He says I am clingy

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Gifgaf · 30/08/2024 10:29

We live in a small apartment currently with our kids and he keeps saying I am in his space all the time. Examples:

  • If he's in the kitchen, and I go in to get or do something quickly it's a huge issue.
  • we are both in the living room, and if I get up to bed at the same time, he gets annoyed and says why I need to get up at the exact same time.
  • He goes to the room to sit and do nothing, I go into the room to sit down because I am tired also and again it's an issue.
  • He goes to the bathroom, and I happen to be crossing over in the corridor and he says I am weird and standing around.

It's been going on for a while and I haven't let it get to me but now it has and I am sat here like an idiot dropping tears over my husband who seems to have an issue with me "being around".

I can't stand it anymore and I said to him if he wants that much space, I'll give it to him permanently and he doesn't have to see me or be around him.

I am not even in his space how he exaggerates!

OP posts:
Coz97 · 30/08/2024 12:44

username44416 · 30/08/2024 12:28

So you're married to someone who doesn't want you in the same room, doesn't want to talk, doesn't want to parent or pull their weight and doesn't want to go to bed at the same time.

I'm assuming you wouldn't have married him or had children with him if this is how he's always been so in my opinion, he's disengaged. If he won't communicate, there's nothing you can do to resolve it.

100%, if he's not willing to discuss these issues and work on it, then there's nothing left to try. I understand it must be so hard as you're currently pregnant and this is the last thing you should be having to deal with.

outdamnedspots · 30/08/2024 13:06

I'm afraid your relationship sounds dead in the water.

You can't talk to him - he doesn't see the point.

You irritate him, and he's being a twat about it.

He leaves all the childcare to you.

He doesn't like socialising and you do - your needs and different, and he's too selfish to compromise for you.

He's supposed to be nurturing you and looking after you, but he's doing the opposite. I don't think things will get any better. What do you want to do?

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