Boyfriend on Instagram

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My boyfriend is a reseller. Last year he set up an Instagram account. Lots of resellers followed him and he followed back. One was a married woman he said she used to message him which I found strange.

There was a period where he was commenting on people’s things so they would follow him. The one woman was single and local and asked if he would go to car boots with her as they were nearby. He said she was always looking for a bloke from her posts and videos and he got rid of her. He mentioned this again recently as he thought it was funny. I am annoyed because if I was secretly messaging other men he would not like it.

He does not bother with Instagram so much now and has not mentioned others contacting him. I know he was honest but he is naive if he thinks some of these women want to be ‘friends’. I find most people just comment on posts to show support or shared interests.

Anyone got any advice please?

I can't be much help OP in that I don't use Instagram myself.

However I have read previous threads on MN where Op's have felt very uncomfortable because their partners have a big social media presence to promote their occupation or to sell stuff.
And there often seems to be a blurring of lines between keeping communication strictly professional and straying into more personal communication.
And this has been difficult for OP's to deal with, especially when their partners seem to be enjoying the ego boost.
So I can understand this is quite difficult for you.

I'm not sure what the problem is. Some woman flirted with him and asked him out. He didn't respond and now has nothing to do with her.

I don’t see any problem here either. Might be why no advice is really forthcoming. There’s no issue.

This is very silly.

I am not quite sure what you want advice for. This random woman contacting him and him finding it amusing?

I think you need to chill out. He's done nothing wrong.

What exactly has he done wrong? He's not been secretly messaging anyone, it's sounds like he's told you all about it.

And even if he hadn't, people in relationships are allowed to talk to people of the opposite sex. They can even do it without mentioning it to their partner!

Another one who is confused about what the issue is. A woman asked him to go to car boot sales with her. She didn’t flirt (from what I can tell) but you saw on her profile that she was ‘looking for a bloke’. Maybe she was. Maybe she also flirted. He told you, didn’t go and unfollowed her.

The only advice that I can give from the limited info you’ve given is that he seems like a decent bloke. He’s done the right thing. Overthinking it will only prevent him from sharing this type of thing with you, in fear of being accused of something. Instead thank him for telling you. Tell him that helps you trust him and laugh about it with him.

He cut her off as soon as he realised and was honest with you. No problem here.

He's not been secretly messaging other women though has he, he's told you about it and stopped contacting them the minute the conversation has strayed towards inappropriate? An invitation to a carboot is hardly a racy proposition.

If it's part of his job to talk to other resellers you can't very well expect him to only speak to ones with penises.

"I am annoyed because if I was secretly messaging other men he would not like it."

How is it a secret if he's openly discussing it with you?

You are over reacting.

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Advice is to stop creating drama.

He’s done nothing wrong. He hasn’t been secretly messaging her, he’s told you about it and cut contact with her as he knows what she’s after.
Do you regularly get annoyed if he dares to talk to women?