Mum keeps having a go at me

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I'm going through a divorce! My mums said things like I'm annoying I'm moaning you go on at him she said I annoy him and dd,I try very hard to get on with them both. I'm sick of it, I said she wasn't being very nice as she said she was there to listen she's not been very good at this she's laying into me. I've had lengthy discussions to work on my marriage but he's made his position clear he doesn't love me, he's grown apart from me I'm trying to come to terms with the sudden shock of him wanting a divorce and filing for divorce I knew things were bad but I thought we could overcome things I never in a million years expected him to file please understand! I needed my mums support not her keep having a go at me I'm trying my best to cope

what does this person bring to your life OP?

i wouldn’t want to be around her let alone confiding in her about my personal issues

you have a dd?

I'm sorry OP, you must be shocked and it's such an upheaval. It sounds like your mum is being insensitive. Perhaps come up with some strategies to deal with her such as not mentioning the divorce and telling her that her opinion isn't wanted.

It doesn't look like you can rely on her for support so I'd find another avenue such as a counsellor.

op i have read your past threads

your mother has custody of your son

and is very concerned about your dd

there is a LOT more to this

She's my mum so I've tried to have a relationship with her! She rarely has time to see me though she used to be nicer I can't work out what wrong with her nowadays she just mean I've lost friends betraying me and being cruel over this too I'm so sad

I know but I'm just posting about her at the moment I'm trying to be a good mum to dd we have a close bond we hang out.

she is busy looking after your son and worrying about your daughter op

Is she perhaps offering you advice and understandably this is a sensitive time for you so perhaps you are taking her comments to heart more than normal?

Do you have any other agency involvement like social services can you speak to them?

There may also be some sort of mental health drop in or talking service available in your area. I could Google if you tell. Me what county you are in if this is helpful.