TW does anyone know if it’s possible to report rape just so it’s logged and not investigated?

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My ex was investigated for coercive control but the CPS decided not to charge.

During this investigation, I said that I had been raped, giving dates, but no questions were ever asked about this and it wasn’t added to my statement I don’t think.

I’m now wondering if I can log these incidents with the police so there is a clear record?

He is a serial abuser and I’m also concerned that he was abusing a child (sexual relationship with a 15/16 year old).

I would like to think that it would be useful for the police to have all the information, but I’m probably kidding myself.

i wouldn’t want it investigated, as the police and CPS have caused me huge trauma. But obviously my ex also caused me huge trauma and I know he has gone on to abuse again since i ended our relationship.

Would it be useful in case anyone else cane forward? I know he was arrested for sexual assault before i met him too. I don’t believe these to be isolated incidents. He is absolutely a predator and a dangerous man. Should I just leave it alone? Or do I get it formally logged?

Thank you if you managed to read all this.

How do you know you will never get justice?

@CharlieDickens because of everything that has happened with the police previously and because hardly any rape cases are prosecuted unfortunately.

I'm really sorry to hear what you've been through. It sounds awful. Just remember that rape is dealt with by a specialist unit so it won't be the same police officers. Yes, prosecutions are low but they do happen. I think you can only really do what you can. Just reporting it might be enough x

My experience of reporting rape was so positive and against everything you see repeated over and over again. We need more positive stories of reportingvrape. Currently women are totally discouraged

I'm not sure whether a conviction would be secured and decided to park the report (full statement taken) It means if he does it again and if another woman reports him both crimes would go to court if we chose. It's a form of evidence gathering imo that is badly needed for such a hard to prosecute crime.

The police told us his 'technique' grooming with nice behaviour, consensual sex before a rape months later when relationship was finished meant he knew he was muddying the chance of successful prosecution. They said he's probably done it before and will do it again. I really hope that woman has the confidence to report him.

@CharlieDickens Thank you. I felt so proud of myself after meeting with the police on Friday, and actually quite positive, like I’d done the right thing. But already that feeling has been replaced with @anxiety unfortunately. It seems there might have been a mistake made somewhere and I just have to sit and wait for someone to call me to tell me what’s going on. I’m really hoping someone calls me soon 🤞

@Wishthiswasntmypost I’m really pleased to hear that you had such a positive experience. You are right - we don’t hear enough positive stories.

What you describe is exactly what I’m hoping to do, thank you for sharing your experience as it really helps to know that it’s possible!

If you believe he has abused someone and is in.a position to potentially fo this again, please report this. Better if you have concrete evidence ..and important whether you do or dont.

I reported mine 7 months ago. The investigation is still ongoing but I can't complain about the police. Unfortunately, my ex was a shady character who deleted everything from his phone without backing it up (wouldn't be dodgy but he works I'm IT so shows he's hiding stuff). I feel my police officer has never doubted me and when they came to take my initial statement I was actually blown away by how professional and empathic they were. They really made a difference.

@CharlieDickens sorry you had that experience (rape) but glad you had a good response from police. I would very much like to change the narrative about reporting rape. Currently it's so negative and inaccurate that it discourages reports. Without reports you can't have convictions. I absolutely know how low the conviction rate is but multiple reports on one individual from people unknown to each other would be really significant

Completely agree with you.

This is why I think the police should be able to use allegations as evidence in cases where there are multiple allegations from different people. I'm sure if every woman who was raped or assaulted came forward the police would have to do more.

That's really good news. It will take a while and it will be hard but it's worth it x