I'm 18 months out of a 15 year marriage. By the end of the marriage, I was in a bad way. Exhausted from spending years trying to support someone with poor mental and physical health.
My husband treated me poorly, with very little respect and this has had an impact on my self-esteem.
I'm now a few months into a new relationship. I like the new man, but we are taking things slowly and are seeing how things are go.
I have quite bad anxiety over the new relationship. I'm worried about every text, over analysing our meet ups and an constantly thinking that he will mess me around or hurt me. I've always been an overthinker but now I seem to be an anxious mess.
The new guy seems very secure in himself and is open for talking things though. When we are together, I can tell that he likes me and I feel better. However, he is very laid back and happy to "go with the flow". But I just can't. I need certainty, at a stage when I'm can't get much. It's an early relationship, nobody knows where it will go. I know this in my head, but the fear that he will dump me is driving me mad.
If i stick with this realationshiolp, my anxiety will be difficult to manage. However, If I end things, will I just end up with the same feelings and insecurities in my next relationship?