Boyfriend snapping constantly

[Ellarose2321]

Hiya everyone.
myself (22Trans F) and my boyfriend (23 M), have been together about a year or so now, during this time, we have basically lived together. He has a 4 year old, which up until July 2024, he would spend the weekends at his dads place to have her. Since we moved into a bigger house which we have together, we have her at the house at weekends, we also have a 7 month dog.
about 2 weeks ago, I mentioned about wanting to go onto the council list for housing, as it would be cheaper rent, however he sees this as degrading and embarrassing so keeps having a go at me for bringing the idea up. He has also started to get very snappy with me every time he talks to me or when I ask him to get up so we can do chores before work or when I ask him to do anything afterwards. It’s started to become a “leave me alone” whenever I ask him to do anything to help around the house or a “I don’t want to”. I went out today, and said to him that he needed to get up and walk the dog whilst I was out, I got home and he was still in bed playing on his phone. I asked him “how was the walk?” (Knowing he hadnt been), to which he said “I couldn’t be bothered and he’s fine”, so I told him I would see him later as I would take the dog out (I usually go out for like an hour and a half), to which he kicked off about us being late to work this afternoon.

I also only see him:
2pm when he wakes up
the drive to work (we work at the same place)
break — if we go at the same time
the drive home
10 minutes after we get home whilst he plays with the dog
at 7am when he comes to bed because he wakes me up
we work 3:30pm — 1AM
and at the weekend until 7pm where we have his daughter

i don’t know what to do as he is completely getting on my nerves all the time as I barely see him and when I do, he’s in a mood with me

You moved in together before you really knew each other. It sounds like the relationship has run its course. You’ve only been together a year and he’s treating you badly and you both sound quite unhappy. Best to end it.

You both seem to be getting on each other's nerves. You think he's lazy and cross and he thinks you're demanding and cross.

This could perhaps be fixed with calm, open communication but on the hand, is it worth it? You haven't been together long, you're on your way to being a step parent at a very young age, and you don't sound particularly compatible.

Sometimes relationships just run their course. You're only a year in, you should still be in the fluffy honeymoon phase. Time to make a choice.

The both of you, particularly him, moved massively too fast. You should just be thinking about introductions to his child at this point. Maybe moving in together in a few months. Dog in a couple of years.

You didn't know each other and now a child and a dog are going to b the ones who pay for that.

Get yourself on a Council list if you are eligible, end the relationship and when you meet someone new, take it much much slower.

Don't stick with this one because you think you have to. (I wish I had taken this advice) It's obviously not working anymore and you should end it.

Next time, take longer to move in with someone, six months at least.

You don't have to live like this and as PP says the child and the dog are both in their ways being disadvanaged too.

22 is awfully young to be thinking of commitments like joint tenancies and stepparenting. I'm sure you will have learned a lot about yourself over this year - now is the time to build on that and decide you are not going to stay in a relationship where there is not enough mutual respect and care.

You definitely should not be like this with each other at that stage of the relationship it's a early period personally if it is like that still I wouldn't stay with him to
Your young and can move on