Masturbation in the morning?

[BitEmbaressinInnit]

Firstly I know this might be better suited to the sex topic and apologies if anyone finds it distasteful but I have the sex topic blocked as I find it a little full on and some of the people there too 😅

I'm a 43 year old woman who has had no sex drive for many years. I've struggled in my relationship alot lately and recently was diagnosed with some health issues that cause low libido.

Since starting medication a little flash of desire has started up again and I have had sex twice this week at night.

I've read the best way to keep this momentum up is to keep on with the meds and keep up with the 'stimulus' so to speak.

And I've found that I have the urge in the morning alot (DH already left for work by the time I get up)

This is my dilemma.
Maybe it's just psychological because I think if I read a post about someone's DH 'wanking' in the day I'd think him a dirty bugger 😅 and some sort of sex addict

I don't watch porn at all. I find it gross.

Maybe it's my Catholic upbringing haunting me.

But I do want to improve things with my husband and like I said I've read that it can help but I feel like a weirdo locking my door at 10am for that.

But why not??? No one needs to know and if it helps your sex drive....

There's nothing wrong with masturbation. I'd do a lot more of it if I had more time to myself!

I think guilt? I don't know.

I feel like if I saw a thread on here 'My husband is having a wank when I leave for work everymoring, whilst the kids are in bed' I'd think that was off!

@BitEmbaressinInnit i understand your point.

Your husband was probably relieving himself when you were not in the mood, and there's no reason why you can't have a go now. You may even find ways to get more pleasure that you can suggest to your DH.
Enjoy it!

Your kids are still in bed at 10am??
Just enjoy yourself OP it's no big deal, I recommend a bullet.

Yes they're all teenagers and it's the summer holidays!

Get on with it. Have fun!

I’m 38, married mum etc, on holiday and it’s v early here, I’ve been for a shower so I can have some me time this morning haha same as most mornings on this holiday it’s normal.

I've got that song 'Sugartime' stuck in my head now, although it doesn't really scan with 'masturbation'..

Sugar in the mornin'
Sugar in the evenin'
Sugar at suppertime

Your body tells you what it needs, listen to it...

It tells you when to pee and poo
It tells you when you're hungry
it tells you when you're thirsty
and it also tells you when it needs sexual pleasure.

I don’t see a problem with it and sometimes it’s the only chance I get when nobody is home.
If my wife is to it’s normally when she’s in the shower or when I’m downstairs and she’s still in bed so early in the morning.

I don’t mind sorting myself out or my partner sorting himself out.

I am away for two nights - I don’t mind him sorting himself - me I’d rather wait as sex is better with him then a ‘wank’.

However either wake up early and do it with DH and then go back to sleep or sort yourself out. Nothing wrong with it.

Me and DP are both at our horniest in the mornings, it's when we're most likely to have sex.

When DD was little and used to wake up at 6am, quite often one of us would take her out for a few hours so the other one got a properly uninterrupted lie in. We had a little running joke to each other to "enjoy your me time", because we both knew what the other was likely to get up to.

There's nothing wrong or shameful with masturbation, no matter what time of day or night it is.

There is no problem here, I promise.

I had a wank this morning, and very nice it was too.

😂

Woman, 40s here It’s more or less part of my daily wake up routine followed by a cup of coffee and has been the case more or less for as long as l can remember. The needs when compared with 1:1 sex are totally different, the latter requires more thought and energy.

OP, it’s healthy, just relax and enjoy.

I'm a 43 year old woman who has had no sex drive for many years

I'm sure your husband wanked when your libido was low

Do what's right for you

No guilt necessary

Is that you Archbishop?

That just sounds like a fucking effort, which is what most women don’t want ta.

Edited to add…👆 post has been removed now 🤣.