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Going through a messy separation.It’s starting to get real bad. Please tell me if throwing water over my head out of a window, throwing half a sandwich at me and smashing a plate against the wall near to where I’m standing is acceptable? DV or Common assault? He hasn’t hasn’t actually hurt me just shouts and says nasty things…. All in front of children.
I think I’m being manipulated to think this is normal

Not normal. If you feel threatened ring the police.

Bear in mind if the children mention this at school its a safeguarding issue.

You need to call the police immediately. This is domestic violence and it will probably escalate. He needs to be removed from the home and you should try to get a non-molestation order to keep him away.

He's working up to actual violence Op, throwing water, smashing things near you, he's running close to the line and especially if it's all done in front of the DC. Yes, he is manipulating you if he's trying to pretend this is normal, he's angry about the breakup but that doesn't make it OK. Don't be afraid to involve the police if you feel threatened

I’m going through something similar. It’s awful. We still have to live together as we need the house to sell before we’re can move on. He was very nasty at first, also very angry, slags me off to anyone and everyone who will listen (even our son). I just ignored all the messages, which was really hard to do, but the right thing to do. He just showed his true colours. He drinks and takes drugs too, he’s worse when he’s on it.

He started getting destructive saying it’s his house and he can do what he wants. I threatened the police and left the house for a few hours, he soon calmed down and was making excuses for his behaviour (heartbroken, losing everything).

Since then he’s been meeting other women that he's met online and has left me alone to an extent, we just communicate through WhatsApp now. Luckily the house is fairly big so we only need to share the kitchen, we are rarely wanting to use it at the same time.

You will get through this, don’t rise to him, if he persists then 100% go to the police and contact women’s aid. You can also self refer to social services who will help you, they won’t take the children from you but can help you safeguard them from him.