Haven’t felt happy for a long time.
have a 3 year old but aren’t married.
he is really hard to live with.
controlling in lots of aspects of my life.
he will then twist things.
We have been together 15 years.
we are very different people he is obsessed with money and having a big house.
He has also had about 25 (maybe more) different jobs.
he clashes with people and doesn’t like authority so he usually leaves thinking the grass is greener then it turns out that it isn’t.
He always finds another job really quickly so we never miss any mortgage payments etc but I don’t like all of the stress it causes.
i don’t want to waste my life with this guy…when we argue he says things like. If we split up your life would be ruined. You wouldn’t be able to afford a house so you would have a flat and it would be shit etc etc
he also says the if we broke up he would go for 50/50 custody…his friend does this and loves it. I work with children and feel that a child is much more settled seeing one parent at the weekend and having a main base at the other parents house. I have seen children bring passed about 50:50 and how unsettling it can be for them.
i just think if I ended it - it would be so messy and he would not be amicable in the slightest.
his personality is that you are either his friend or his enemy nothing inbetween. I think I have stayed all this time because I’m scared of the consequences so it is just easier to pretend.
Sorry the long post I just need a vent…