Had enough - please hand hold

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I’ve had enough with DH and his poor parenting. It’s like banging my head against a brick wall

We are a blended family. No kids together. I’m autistic and he has ADHD.

Im really vulnerable, dependent and naive. I need advice on getting my ducks in a row. It feels overwhelming. We have a joint mortgage and joint bank account.

Can someone talk me through this mess?

Go see a solicitor first. Make sure you have all financial documents with you.

His earnings, any income you have, mortgage, household bills, everything you could possibly need.

If you don't have joint children, where do each of your children live?

You will need to consider where you are going to live, as you are married you should be entitled to a share of the sale of the house but it doesn't sound like you can buy him out.

Check what benefits you would be entitled to living on your own. Start an application for social housing. Make an appointment with Citizens advice services for help.

Those are your first points of contact, solicitor and Citizens advice. Deal with the practical stuff before you deal with him.

Thank you @FoxtrotOscarKindaDay

My children live with us 100% (their dad died). His are with us 50% (their mum is alive and well).

How do I get evidence of what he earns, joint bank statement? I earn quite a bit more than him and I have a much better pension, how do I protect that? We’ve only been married 2 years.

I probably could buy him out tbh but I don’t need the massive house.