I met a woman online around two months ago, and she told me from the start that she is medically diagnosed ADHD and Autism. Immediately, I was drawn to her. She is funny, smart and witty.
She was very honest about her relationship before meeting me. She said that she was with a narcissist and he was very toxix.
The first few weeks was a rollercoaster. We spent pretty much every day together and we had so much fun in each others company. I came to later realise that this was her hyper focus at the time. Everyone who saw us, said we were great together.
It then changed, dramatically. She became very quiet and reserved, and didn't seem too enthusiastic. We did have an open conversation and she said that she had put off self care, and put a lot of energy into me and that we should take a step back and work on ourselves. Since then though, we have spent time together and still had intimate moments.
I have spent a lot of time learning about ADHD and Autism, and how I can support. It is a challenge, and one of the hardest things I have ever had to do but I like her enough to do this.
She since came back from her parents house down South, and she seems more chatty. She told me that she was speaking with her mum and dad about me - which I think is a good sign?
I am just curious if someone has been with someone like this before? How do I support her? What does space look like? Does she want me to initiate plans etc? Any advice would help because I don't want to be hurt later down the line which I appreciate is a risk that I have to take.