What to do when you feel lonely and no one hears your pain

[Helshoaty]

That’s it really. I’m just struggling and feeling overwhelmed with everything, life in general. I find it hard to open up as I get let down every single time.

Case in point, I went looking for a new car yesterday with DH. We have had a lot of marital issues over the years, I finally thought we were back on track. His outburst just before we went in, all because I said if I see a car I might purchase. He believes I’m irresponsible, I’ve not thought things through when I am very capable and have done my research. He did the same thing a few months back when I started to investigate a new car then. He apologised but his anger, which he has since denied threw me again. I just feel down today.

I just wanted some reassurance from my DM and DSF who as always downplayed my upset. They think I’m always too emotional. Especially when they believe I have a good DH who they don’t know how he puts up with me and my moods.

i just feel so low today and let down. The teen DC are still in bed and refusing to help me with chores around the house. Nothing major, just at least some helping with dishwasher, laundry. Their laundry!

I just feel so tearful and want to run away. I’m feeling very sorry for myself and wondering why I let my family get to me so much. I’m so taken for granted and feel unheard and unseen.

I’m going to head out and buy myself something nice to try and cheer myself up before I’m back in work tomorrow. But I feel sad, powerless and annoyed that DH rage has got to me again. I want to leave but my energy is depleted.

He sounds very controlling. You are probably a people-pleaser.

Could you try being more assertive? I know it's hard as you'll have the consequences of him being in a bad mood but could you try ignoring the bad mood? Does it matter if there's a bad vibe in the house? Could you distract yourself from the bad vibe by doing what you love?
Also, be more assertive with DC if they need to help you more. Don't get emotional, just get direct. Assert your expectations, walk away into another room if you get any whingeing from any of them.

He is extremely controlling and I’m trying to be more assertive but it’s tiring! I’m especially having a low day, I went for a walk and despite the rain I felt a bit better.

Thank you for replying @FastCaar

The issue I have is knowing he is controlling but everyone thinks it’s me who is controlling! Why does everyone see mister nice when he is anything but that. He’s come home, said hi to the DC but ignored me. I feel miserable. I said in the past that we need to split but then I see him improve but it’s not a deep change is it??