Kicked by partner - being completely downplayed

[HarleyWoof]

During a row 3 weeks ago my partner kicked me twice . I'm a strong male (40 +) so it wasn't sore at all.but after it happened I left and immediately blocked my partner on all messaging apps as that was not acceptable to me. She turned up at my house a week later and apologied and said she was due to get therapy and that she shouldn't have done it. I accepted this and decided to put it behind us. Roll on a week and during another disagreement (instigated by her saying really nasty things about people I work with) she referred to kicking me and said she just tapped me with her foot. She has refused to take this back. I am absolutely irate, like I said if wasn't sore at all but the fact within a few days she has completely down played it really bothers me. She completely refuses to retract her tapping me with her foot comment. What do I do?

Leave and walk away. Block on everything. Tell them not to turn up at your house again and if they do don’t answer, then call the police if it continues to harassment

You end the relationship immediately. The only acceptable level of abuse is none.

My now partner had this from his ex.

It evolved into a decade of domestic violence. Even after he left she's had no consequences, not even socially - noone gives a fuck.

Just get out.

You said it wasn’t acceptable to you then you accepted the apology a week later?

Now there’s another disagreement and you’re irate. It doesn’t matter whether they downplay their behaviour or not. You both need to break up for good. Mean what you say and stick to it. Nothing’s going to change otherwise.

U deserve better

You end it.

There's not really anything else to say. Sorry

You leave. The downplaying shows that her apology wasn't serious.

End it. She's shown you who she is so take note and don't give her another chance to be abusive. It doent matter that it wasn't painful, it's that she has re framed the narrative around the incident and minimised her actions.

Leave. You do not need to give her a reason, she doesn’t need to agree that what she did was wrong, you need need her permission to go.

Hopefully there are no children involved.

Agree with others, and I would also say that once it gets physical it’s almost guaranteed that it will happen again. It’s a horrific line for someone to cross to be physically violent but once they have crossed that line once, it’s unlikely they permanently get themselves back on the other side of it. Leave OP and don’t look back, you deserve better x

You really need to leave, she is abusive and sounds like she is quite capable of repeating or even escalating the abuse.

End it. It's torture to be with someone you know will/could hit you. The next step will be you somehow deserved it because you provoked her or were aggressive to her.

Even if it didn’t hurt, her intention was to hurt you. That’s not acceptable.

I mean why would you want to be with someone who makes drama by saying horrible things about people either?

Sounds like too much drama.

If there's more than one moderate level argument between myself and a partner in a year long period, I'm out. Tbh I've never been in a healthy relationship that had arguments as much of a feature.

She has been abusive towards you - don't stick around!

What do you do? You leave and don't go back.

Well done for leaving the first time.

She has now proved to you that she doesn’t care that she hurt you and it will happen again.

Think about all of the times you have kicked her, your children or pets - I assume this is never because you do not do that to someone you love.

I would never kick my child, so why would I kick my DP just because he’s stronger than me.

You need to leave.
You deserve so much better than this.

Leave. You deserve better.

You dump her nasty ass and you never look back.

She's physically abusing you, guilting and manipulating you into coming back then gaslighting you about what she did.

Fucking run

What you do is walk away from her. No more second chances. Her next gambit will possibly be another physical attack on you, then perhaps she will involve the police and say you started it, she only hit back in self defence. Don't hang around to find out how this plays out.

No level of physical violence is acceptable. Downplaying it shows the lack of remorse. Get out.

She will do it again..

Agree with everyone on this post. Leave. The line has been crossed now and it will happen again.