Tattoo of Ex

[maclen]

I have been with my BF for 6 years, we live together and have kids from previous relationships, he has a tattoo of his Ex's name on his arm. They were together less time than we have been but we're married... Should it upset me he still has this or just one of those things 🤷🏻‍♀️

I guess I feel not as important to him as his ex was... or I'm being over sensitive...

i assume he had the tattoo when you met him? or did he get it while you were in a relationship? were you the OW? did he leave her for you?

do you want him to have it removed and have your name put there instead? you do know that tattoos are pretty permanent.. expensive to remove and difficult to change?

i personally don't understand anyone getting a tattoo of a partner on their person. my DH and i have matching tattoos, but not names.. its a verse from a song we hold dear.

you say you feel she was more important than you... but you got a ring.. she didnt

Sorry I meant they were married not us... And yes I'm well aware of tattoos being permanent. No I wasn't the OW 🤔 strange thing to think? I was single for 2 years and him about 1 year.

I would've addressed this quite early on asking if he’s getting it covered with something else.

my point is he had the tattoo before you met... you knew it was there and as you have said you are aware tattoos are permanent... why are you so bothered about it now? you sound very insecure.. its a bit of ink on some skin

Tbh I would think that anyone with a name tattooed on them is a bit stupid and would have run a mile on first seeing it.

Have you discussed your view with him?

When it became serious why didn’t you bring it up then why now?

but you’d think he’d cover it with another tat seeing as they broke up.

The daft sod. Can’t he get a coverup tattoo?

https://www.theredhandfiles.com/do-you-like-your-tattoo/

I’m going to drop this little article here for you.
You should know that Nick Cave’s wife is called Susie- and she is way too cool to sweat the small stuff!

That isn’t the exes name though @MoveToParis

Well I did.... it's an initial and he said it was a family relative... but I guess it's bugged me ever since but since you can't see it and no one else would I have left it.. but recently it's crept into my mind.

If it bothers you then tell him. Maybe offer to pay for a cover up. New ink is always a buzz.

So he lied saying it was a relatives and you stuck around? 😂😂 How embarrassing. Do you have low self esteem?

I guess I feel not as important to him as his ex was...

because he doesn't have your initial tattooed on him? I'd like to think he learned his lesson the first time and wouldn't be so stupid as to get a girlfriends name tattooed on him twice!?

If you were happy to forgive his lie about who's initial it was, then it shouldn't bother you years later

Time for another talk about it, but why lie that’s weird.

Yes that would bother me. But I wouldn’t entertain dating a bloke that had a tattoo of his ex girlfriend’s name. It tells me everything I need to know about a bloke.

I have my exes name on me, I was very young and it's hidden away so I completely forget it's there 99.9% of the time. It's probably the same for him.

And I'd never get anyone's name on me again, if that's any reassurance.

Get a dog/cat/goldfish/pot plant and call it said name. Then the connotation will be changed.

Problem sorted.