Long story short, had a baby 4 months ago, husband had routine surgery 2 months ago which had horrendous complications and he ended up in ICU- he was away from home for 6 weeks being treated whilst I juggled visiting him 50 miles away daily and caring for baby and 8 year old and I work full time too as we agreed when pregnant I would go back to work ( I work remotely ) and he would take parental leave ( so he’s only bringing in £172 a week so my job is vital ) husband is home now, very weak and sleeping a lot, does what he can with the baby but it’s minimal, his mental health is bad and he needs a lot of support.
Baby is going through sleep regression and waking 6 + months times per night - some nights baby and husband have me awake every half hour. 8 year old constantly wants to play / be watched or be interacted with, work are lovely but I’ve taken as much annual leave/ unpaid leave as I can right now, combined with all the usual household stuff honestly I’m literally dead on my feet. I already have a cleaner - we don’t have bags of money but this is affordable. Any advice on how to negotiate with his without loosing my sanity?? I have a mother but she helps minimally when suits so am pretty much alone.