Im 34, DP is 39, we have known each other since teenagers, been together 3 years, lived together for 1 year. I have teen DD he has 6yr old DD 2 nights a week. On the whole blended family going well.
Since we first got together he has always had an issue, issues sleeping, issues eating, issues with his ex, issues with his family, then his BIL, then work, then money, then his DD. It is literally always something. Some of these issues have been considerable and we have discussed them as a couple but as time has gone on I’m just getting a bit bored of the constant issues/drama.
For example: he doesn’t get on with his BIL but continues to seek a relationship with him for his sisters sake and then is pissed off/upset when it goes to shit!
The added thing is when he is having an issue it’s all consuming, he is miserable, down, flat, will drink a bit more (although Iv put my foot down on this and he has got better) and it just ruins the vibe of the relationship. All the nice things we have planned are then marred by his most recent upset.
For example: we look forward to having a dinner out etc, but an hour before he’ll get a text from his ex about DD and it will put him in a bad mood 🙄 it won’t even be anything I would even say is an issue
I feel like I have no room in the relationship for any of my issues (not that I have many tbh) because his are always worse. Iv started to just not tell him things tbh to avoid the added drama of him having an even worse day!
we do have good times but I think I might have the ick, but also worried I’m just a heartless cow?! advice?