Do narcissistic type people love their children and grandchildren?

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My husband and me I’m pretty sure since he married me have become scapegoats.

My MIL has this silent con-temp for me that in person she struggles to hide. Since meeting me she doesn’t bother with her golden child anymore as his attention is on me and our kids. She won’t visit won’t ask about them, not interested unless they are in front of her then I feel she has to act like she cares.

If she hates me so much does she also hate them because she is no longer centre of her son’s world?

She doesn't have to do anything, if she is not nove you don't have to be around her but you can't force people to do anything or be what you think they should be

No I agree whatever is going on in her brain I have zero control. Is it possible then that she doesn’t love them because she sees no use to her and I’ve annoyed her?

They don't love people they manipulate and abuse them for their own purposes. If they don't fall in line there is generally nasty behaviour. I'm the scapegoat and seemingly the only person in my family who understands what's going on. I keep my distance.

Everyone is now apparently able to diagnose a narcissistic personality disorder in others. She’s just selfish. It’s not the same thing.

They will tell their friends or aquaintances how clever/takented/rich their kids are as they can ‘one-up’ them and also make them look like doting grandparents

No. Narcs dont love anyone- they arent capable of it, it's literally not there in their brains. They see people as appliances to be used and children are just extensions of their own ego to manipulate as they see fit.

Oh they will tell you they love you (to manipulate you) but its to get their own way.

I only assume because he’s grown up his whole life like this and doesn’t see it for what it is, he makes lots of excuses….oh that’s just my mum etc etc.

Who diagnosed her?