He’s cheating and I’m a mug right?

[pinkpepperclove]

With and vague glimmer of hope that I could be in the wrong I am resulting to asking strangers on the internet

Husband sends completely out of character WhatsApp with two X X which he never does

I instantly demand to know who it was meant for. He flat out denied he sent it and he’s saying it’s a hack. Timeline so has it that he was with his dad on the way home. His dad swears blind he wasn’t on his phone to send the message.

so tell me tales of this actually being a possibility or that I’m hearing for a divorce with a newborn.

No it was very out of the blue. Felt like it was meant for another person and accidentally sent it to me instead.

I agree things are hacked, but I’m seeing more about scams, numbers and group chats, not one message. However link me to examples if they relate!

Definitely sounds like he sent it to you by accident rather than "being hacked"

www.reddit.com/r/whatsapp/s/giim2aMnnk

Read this link

Thank you! Not completely unheard of then

No not unheard of at all, just search this into Google
“whatsapp sending message I never sent”, lots of similar stories. I don’t know if that’s the case with your other half, if you’ve no other reasons to doubt him and his dad says he didn’t even touch his phone, then maybe you can look into reporting it? If it’s innocent, he shouldn’t have a problem with you investigating and fiddling with his phone. Tell him you want to check a few things out to make sure he’s not been hacked, then while you’re at it, follow the suggestions others have made about retrieving WhatsApp since the last update and see what’s there. If he gets protective of his phone, you may have something to be concerned about

Well if my husband demanded something of me I would tell him where to go

Sure he could be cheating but carrying on like teenager won't help

And there is a saying about people who snoop

@pinkpepperclove you made the point about it not being his usual style. For what it's worth, one of the things which struck me as strange when I read my partner's messages to another woman was how much it didn't sound like him.

His WhatsApp hasn't been hacked to send the message "Lol very you x x". If he won't be honest with you, there isn't anything you can do except try to access his chat history to see who he has been messaging instead. If you have to do that, then trust has broken down ... but it's hard to advise anything else when you can't rely on your partner for a straight answer. However, let's be real, he has not been hacked.

Is it possible there's another phone signed into his iCloud account?

Whatsapp is very secure as an app, and while possible to be hacked (anything is!) that message doesn't read like a typical hacker message. People rarely hack to send other people messages like that, they hack for gain - usually financial. So I would rule out hacking.

It sounds very much like a message sent in error. And it's very easy for him to delete from his Whatsapp so there is no 'evidence'.

Also, the out of character isn't unusual. Speaking from experience.