My friend went on some dates with a guy who she went to school with. In the first few dates he told her he had a drink and drug problem but she continued anyway. After 2 years she ended it as she said he was controlling and could not handle the drink and drugs. None of us can understand why a woman of 41 years old at the time would ignore major red flags like that.
They split up a year ago and she still talks to him. I had to block him as he was harassing me and asked me out knowing I had a partner.
My friend now wants me to be her crutch. She has lied to her ex saying she is dating my boyfriend’s friend. She has never met my boyfriend. I am annoyed she would drag my boyfriend into it. She has asked if she can be set up with his friend saying they might get on. I think she is deluded as I have never mentioned any of his friends being single or eligible. It is though she will just take anyone.
She said she is desperate to meet someone now at 44 and she wants a family. She is her father’s full time carer and wants to escape from home caring for him.
She wants me to take her to my old walking groups to meet men but at the moment I genuinely don’t have time due to other commitments and am trying to sort my health out. I feel she wants to use me to go as I only see her twice a year. Plus she wants to use the men for dating and not there for the real purpose of walking.
I just don’t get why she thinks it is ok to waste my time when I have my own life. She should sort herself out and not expect others to do it for her.