Would you delete him from FB friends?

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We split up about 8 weeks ago after many years. We are in different countries & he is also a very old friend,

He has a fake FB account & was very open about it with me: just had me and his best mate (who was travelling) on it, and used it for offers on equipment for his job. I believe him, nothing dodgy.

But we've split now & the thought of him stalking my posts makes me feel uneasy. To clarify, there is a LOT of history. But does this give him the right to carry on seeing my posts?

I'm overanalysing, unfriending him shows indifference (or does it?). Is it more indifferent to just leave him on there?

I can see when he's online on Messenger & it's off putting & draws me in, although neither of us has contacted the other.

Why on earth would you stay FB friends with someone you have split with and don't ever intend to see again? Just unfriend and stop giving this headspace.

(Also, I'm not sure why you were so quick to believe his explanation for having a fake account. If he genuinely doesnt use FB except to buy stuff, why would he even have bothered friending you on there?)

Unfriend and move on.

You are so overthinking it. Just delete him.

Of course you shouldn't stay 'friends' with your ex who your concerned might stalk you?
Block him. And having a fake Facebook he claims is just for you and 'selling equipment' does sound dodgy AF.

It's not that I don't intend to see him again. I will have to see him around. Yes, you're right, he's occupying too much headspace.

I was "quick to believe his explanation for having a fake account" because he really doesn't use it for anything - it's not to buy stuff, it's to look up specific equipment. You'll just have to trust my judgment on that one but I spent long enough in his company to know it's true. He friended me to get in touch in a discrete way - too much history to explain. I guess he can still use it to friend other women now. Oh well. Too much headspace, as you say,

Thanks all. Please keep it coming. I'm trying hard to feel the hate enough to move on & not give a fuck any more.

That's what block buttons are for don't do this to yourself pet you deserve more 🌸