I just ordered a divorce ring

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Well I'm not going to call it that as I don't want a reminder of the divorce itself.

I struggled to stop wearing my engagement and wedding ring. I realised some of that was because I felt strange with having all bare fingers, as I don't have any other rings. I was never really pleased with my engagement ring as even though I got it designed, when they made a cad design of it and I went to check it and make final adjustments to it, my ex got in the way and I ended up not liking it.

Anyway I went to this artsy place that has lots of jewelry designers and ordered one just how I want it. It's quite unusual.

I've never bought myself expensive jewelry, only costume jewellery so I'm very excited for it. It should be ready in a months time.

I'm too embarrassed to tell my friends about it as I don't think they will understand why it's important to me. It's hard to even explain why it's important...something to do with me meeting my own needs, and treating myself. And being able to do that way better when I am single than when I am in a relationship. Does that makes sense?

I'm so excited!

I think that's lovely ❤️

I love this, such a good idea. Enjoy it!

I think it's a lovely idea. When my mum divorced my dad, she got her rings melted into plates as pedents for my brother and I. I can't remember how she re used the engagement ring stones- it was 35+ years ago now.

@mamamarshmallow that's a lovely idea.

I had considered melting down my engagement ring to use for this one...only because I'm a cheapskate. But I didn't want the new ring to have anything more to do with the engagement ring. (I feel bad saying that as obviously my kids are very much to do with my ex!! And I love them so much) Things are amicable with my ex so that's good.

So that's beautiful that your mum found something to do with it that had meaning. 💜

That's perfect!
Absolutely don't call it your divorce ring .. it's your happy ever after ring 😊

Can we see a picture?

I think it’s a fab idea. I got my engagement ring made into a necklace and gave it to my DD for her 21st.. it didn’t mean much to me but nice for her to have it

I think it's a lovely idea OP and a concrete symbol of your having moved on and into the next phase of your life, which I pray will be one of joy, peace of mind and fulfilment for you.
I can't get a divorce yet but I am awaiting the decision on my application for an annulment from the Catholic Church. I think when I can, I may well do what you've done and buy myself a piece of good jewellry to symbolise me being freed from an invalid "marriage" and moving on to what I do believe will be a new life of peace of mind, fulfilment and lots of laughter and joy!
When you have it, it'd be great to see a photo of it OP! All the very best to you!

Totally makes sense. I always regretted not having the engagement ring I wanted (which was almost exactly £1k), as exh said I couldn't.

At the time he was unemployed, so I understood there was an issue of pride for him. But I was earning a good wage and could afford it. I asked if I could buy it, and he repay me at some point, but he couldn't live with that.

One of a raging army of red flags, which I couldn't/wouldn't see at the time.

I ended up with a £40 Argos ring after around 2yrs of being engaged. I didn't even get a ring pull substitute! Lord, romance was dead with that man. Maybe it was because I proposed (cue cries of "Idiot!" and wanting to hit my head like Dobby - hindsight & all that).

Now divorced. Many years ago I worked for the Head Office of Omega watches and fell in love with De Ville watches. I could never afford them, but have often wistfully checked them online.

New, they are around £9k for the model I like. Even if I could afford it, I couldn't justify it.

Divorce was finalised a while back, FMH is almost sold, my cPTSD therapy is done (for the moment) and my little family are finally getting the fresh start we need.

Come Christmas or New Year, I plan to get a secondhand De Ville - they can go for under £200 if I'm lucky.

Enjoy your beautiful ring. I've always felt well-designed jewellery is an investment. In yourself if nothing else. You are worth it. Anyone else has an issue, it is their problem, not yours.

@TheDutchHouse oh yes 😍 that's exactly what it will be!

Beautiful idea. I have boys and actually I lost the stone of my engagement ring ages ago and never replaced it.

Please can we see it. It sounds fab.

Thank you so much for the well wishes 🙏🌈.

Good luck with the annulment I hope the process isnt too stressful for you. Sending you strength.

I brought myself a ring when I got divorced years ago now I loved it. I got remarried 5 years ago and gave my ring to my daughter as I now have an engagement ring and wedding band. Its a wonderful idea I got it because I deserved it after 18 years with someone who couldn't keep it in his pants

What a great thing to do for yourself!

This is a wonderful idea. Not quite the same but I bought myself a diamond ring for my 40th to embrace that I'd clicked into feeling 'hell yeah 40' rather than 'oh no 40'.
@TheDutchHouse has named it perfectly. You'll see it every day as a reminder of what a fabulous new chapter this will be.

What a lovely thing to do for yourself.

Yes I love that ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

I'm almost 40 so I may as well carry this sort of thinking on! Maybe a necklace to go with that ring! I didn't even know I was into jewellery! Seems I am. Ha.

I'm going to sell mine to pay for a necklace I've always wanted