My mother is a toxic, manipulative, selfish narcissist who is 82 years old and I really cannot bear her. My 55 year old brother (who also cannot bear her) is in a hospice on end of life care with pancreatic cancer. She's tried to squeeze a few tears out but her behaviour has been utterly abhorrent since he was diagnosed on the 8th july. He's been in a hospital/ hospice since 12/8 and only visited half of those days as the other days happen to fall on her bingo days, I've been phoning the ward to see how he is, washing fresh t shirts for him and taking them. When he came home from another hospital stay at the beginning and of the month and very poorly, I have taken unpaid leave from work, left my home 25 miles away and my 13 and 17 year old to care for him as I didn't want to leave him on his own, whereas she's just gone out and done what she always does and then has the nerve to say I've come there to help her! To clarify, my brother has no family and lives with her. Twice we have been called out of the room by a doctor, once to say he's got about 6 weeks left and the other to ask about funeral arrangements and both these times shes come back in the room and repeated it right in front of him. I and others who know her well are just utterly disgusted with her but when my brother goes she'll act the epitome of the grieving mother and will lap up the attention, like the true narcissist that she is.