Am I being unreasonable? Partners hobbies / socialising

[millifran]

How often does your other half go out to socialise or do their hobbies?

For context- we have 5 month old baby she is no trouble at all touch wood really good baby so I don't ' struggle ' too much - only being tired and usual mum stuff.
He is a great dad always helping and we have good quality family time - that isn't the problem.

Anyway.
I know it's common for mums to feel like default parent especially when oh works all day ect. I feel like it's not 50:50. I totally get everyone needs their 'me' time but where is the line and what's too much? I don't go out as much as I want to be with her, when I see friends I take her ect. I have got a night out this weekend planned though with friends!!! Which I am excited about but will really miss her.
I do go to the gym for an hour x3 a week.
I don't want to resent my partner for feeling like his life hasn't changed but I do?
Our lives change so much as Mums and I'm fine with it but just don't feel like theirs do.

My partner goes to golf and occasionally squash and cricket, and home football matches ( to watch not play). And also likes to socialise has lots and lots of friends so always plenty going on.
Every week is different sometimes more sometimes less. For example last week it was golf Saturday and Sunday and then football Monday night, I said I wasn't ok with this and he explained it was a one off and that when golf is done he will come home and he is playing early - which he did.
This week it was squash last night and socialising at pub tonight, but then he is with us all weekend and watching her on Sunday whilst I go out. it's that I just feel like he gets to continue doing what he used to while I'm just here.
Obviously sometimes it may just be one thing might just be golf once a week, but I feel like there's never just nothing.

We haven't had a date night since she was born as just too many things like his hobbies or family and friends things on. Just feel like it's parenting, family time and friends time separate not much us time.

So am I being unreasonable to get annoyed? How often does your partner go out? Or how often does he go to do hobbies?

Thanks

you need to have equal time away, so if he has stuff on sat sun and Monday night, then the entire next weekend he should stay with the baby while you have a break.

That feels like tit for tat. I when we had children we both rarely did anything and wanted to put the baby then DC first (both of our lives changed). It could get to the point where he goes out on a Monday so do you go out on a Tuesday, he does something for three hours on Wednesday so you do something for three hours Thursday. If its like this when do you spend time together as a family and time together as a couple. OP sorry but it sounds like you are on different pages it sounds like he is being unfair but it sounds like you are either not compatible as a couple and or mature enough or unselfish enough to make things work. He wants to continue as one of the lads not sure if you are too young to have children or whether you have had children before his friends etc (but longer term your relationship won’t work if he can’t put you and your baby first).