Meddling?

[LINC1990]

My best friend has just got a new girlfriend, she is very nice and is making him really happy (happiest I've seen him in a long time)
Unfortunately I have found out some information about her that ultimately is definitely none of my business but I don't know if my friend knows this information or even should know, it involves pressing charges against someone for r*pe, this court case is still ongoing and the man is denying it profusely, this isn't the first man that she has accused (first one case was dismissed)
I don't know if I should tell him, ignore it as it's none of my business at all, I worry if something awful was to happen and he found out I knew he would never speak to me again but I don't want him to think I'm meddling?
Again she is lovely and we get on well, she might of already told him but I don't know what to do, if anything?

I would say in the first instance, it’s very rare for a perpetrator to admit to rape. The fact it is being denied does not suggest she is making false accusations. However it may be worth having the conversation with your friend very gently. They probably already know.

How did you find out? Is it hearsay or is there evidence..

If you’re sure it’s fact, yes I would tell him.

I think you could tell him, but framed in a way of concern for her. Say that you have come across this information and it must be terrible for her to go through this, you hope she is ok etc etc.

Thanks so much for your comments, I actually thought about reaching out to her just to say I'm here if she needs anything, I can't imagine what's it like to be going through this but again don't want to overstep boundaries when we've only met a couple of times. I will try and approach him gently.

I know 100% it's going on definitely not hearsay. I do not know the ins and outs though.

Definitely don’t say anything to her! Bring it up with him in concern for her well-being if anything. She’s not your friend, don’t get involved.

I suppose rape is notoriously difficult to convict for, so just because one case was thrown out doesn't mean the second/ both aren't necessarily based on truth or that she goes around accusing men willy nilly. Were the two trials connected?

How have you come across this information, should you keep it confidential? If it's public information, speak to him in confidence and ask whether he is aware this is happening.

Don't approach her with mock concern. That's really inappropriate.

I would imagine he already knows about it if she's in the middle of a court case.

assuming she has been raped, it’s up to her when she chooses to share that with a romantic/sexual partner. It can wreak absolute havoc in a relationship.

How on earth do you know this with such certainty?