The awkward crush

[Starrythoughts]

Over the last few years, I've developed feelings towards a close friend. I have been with my DP for 15 years and I've tried my best to keep myself focused on this as I don't want to lose my relationship. It doesn't stop my fantasising. The CF and I will unavoidably cross paths so I can't cut him off all together for no reason. A friend recently advised I should just be honest with him and tell him I want to end the friendship so I can concentrate on my relationship. What do you think?

@Nineinchgash hard to say. Maybe ever so slightly but I definitely think he would back off if he knew how I felt.

Maybe just tell him you want to concentrate on your relationship so you won't have as much time, not bring any feelings for him into it, they are a fantasy and probably best un-voiced and left there.

I would keep the friend at arms length and focus on my relationship. These things have a way of fading away when you don't see them. I also advise blocking his social media.

@Starrythoughts, is your Friend single?

I wouldn’t complicate and breathe more life into the crush by telling him about it.

Distance yourself as much as possible, and pour your energy, appreciation and cherishment into your Partner.

Do not tell him. You don't have to cut him off, just distance yourself when you see him, don't share things with him about your DP relationship and don't engage in messaging or other communication between seeing him in person.