So a relative is visiting from abroad and staying nearby. I was contacted via WhatsApp by this relative and asked for advice re the best route from the airport etc to where they were staying. I sent appropriate advice with a snapshot of the train journey and also offered to collect from a midway point if they wanted that. They got back to me soon after saying they had made arrangements and a friend was going to collect her now. Fine. Although I did think they could have let me know about these new arrangements. But no prob. To be hospitable and b/c I want to see them too, arrangements were made via a phonemail to spend time together today. I put today aside.I didn't in fact rearrange a few commitments today too...but my choice to do that. She cancelled late last night, I saw the msg this morn. It seemed like a reasonable reason tbh. She didn't however suggest another time we could meet up. We chatted on the phone late morning today, good vibe. She started talking about her eve plans & said she was due to be home late , like midnight. The lady she's staying with, who I am also related to, lives near me too, was unaware of her eve plans and she hadn't informed her of her plans as she wanted to get my opinion on it first. She was concerned that the lady she's staying with wont like her coming home late on the train tonight. I agreed, this lady wont, she's very anxious and old too. I wanted to be accommodating , and I did wonder if she was dropping a hint too, so I suggested her coming back on the train to my house instead for the night. I wouldn't mind at all. She said yes. Sorted. I told her I was popping into this old lady today , and this relative said she would leave her overnight bag in the hallway for me to collect and bring back to my house. She was polite. Before setting off to this old lady's house, I get a msg saying 'my eve plans have changed, I may not be going out tonight now.' So in my head I thought , 'so do I take your overnight bag with me back to my house or not?' Whilst at this old lady's house I messaged and called her to find out. She did get back to me just before I left saying ...'no need to take the overnight bag now.'
I find all this back 'n forth change of plans exhausting and stressful.
I am also pretty sure she will reach out today 'when shall we meet up, I really wanna see you' etc etc
Well I am not confident that she'll follow through tbh. And I dont like this ...yes/no/yes/no malarke
What people think pls?