A friendship one. Your reflections would be appreciated. Thanks!

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How old are you and what is the age range of your friends?

Are they mostly around your own age? Younger? Older? A mix?

Do you find your friendships are different with friends of different ages?

I ask because I don't have any friendships with people/women my age and, at 49, I'm really beginning to feel it.

51. They around my age group too. Def hard at our age unless its a hobby or club to meet people. One friend 60s she retired we still meet up.

I'm 39 youngest friend is 29 oldest is 55.

My younger friend has on old head on their shoulders and my older friend is immature and fun.

I have one friend who is 12 years younger than me who I met through a hobby nearly 20 years ago.

The rest are all older than me. A couple who are late 50s one in their 70s but mostly in their 60s.

We met through hobbies and going to gigs when our children were grown and we were free to go out again. But as they retire (some of them early), have grandchildren and care for ageing parents (I don't have any parents) I am finding that the difference in life stages is more apparent then it was 10+ years ago when I was late 30s and they were generally late 40s/early 50s.

But I never meet women my own age.

My friend circle is in the 30-40s age range

Add to my comment I'm 32

It's just a bit of a weird feeling.

10 years ago, the difference between us didn't feel that great. We were all interested in the same things, our children were at different stages but still in education, their parents were 10 years younger but things have really changed in the last 2 or 3 years.

I don't know where to meet women my age who want to do the same sort of things as I do!

I'm 55 and my closest friends range from 51 to 62.

My work friends (ie the ones I will go for a drink with or meet for an afternoon out) are all in their 30s

I’m 36 . My friends are all over the age range . Older ones through our hobby , (allotment) round about the same age through work - actually that’s not true , I have a few older ones at work . It’s funny how you don’t really think about people ages when you’re an adult . And one or two mum friends who are older .
im an avid reader and also go to a lot of book signings , and that seems to attract people in their early 40 ish - but again all ages , I seem to get chatting to those that age though!

I will say that these are people I’m friendly with, have had the odd meal / activity/ drink in pub with have a chat ect .

I made a conscious decision about 5 years ago not to foster very close friendships with people anymore after 3 very very hurtful experiences over the years , and I have to say , I’m much happier in myself having friendly good actuations then very close “bff” type friendships

I'm 45. My close friends are 5 or so years either side of me, but I have some friends who are in their mid-late 50s and work / hobby friends I get on with who are as young as mid 20s.

A friend I know was feeling like you and so started her own little social group during the pandemic, and managed to find a lot of women locally who felt similarly. Between aged of 35-55ish. She just reached out to a load of people and was honest about feeling a bit lonely.

Im 56. Mine range from about 40 to about 60. Most of the ones older than me are 56-57 and that’s because they’re school friends and I was the youngest girl in my year ☺️

It’s funny how you don’t really think about people ages when you’re an adult

No, I never have done but since the conversations have turned more to care home fees, retirement planning, how exhausting it is looking after grandchildren and less about which band were going to see this weekend, it's become really noticeable! Because I can't contribute to the new conversations!

I made a conscious decision about 5 years ago not to foster very close friendships with people anymore after 3 very very hurtful experiences over the years , and I have to say , I’m much happier in myself having friendly good actuations then very close “bff” type friendships

Similar here, tbh. I suppose I'm looking for people around my age I can have fun and a laugh with.

A friend I know was feeling like you and so started her own little social group during the pandemic, and managed to find a lot of women locally who felt similarly. Between aged of 35-55ish. She just reached out to a load of people and was honest about feeling a bit lonely.

That's a good idea actually. Thanks