Just that really. Matched with someone on Tinder, "M", and met up a few times. When we saw each other there was a real connection and as well as having amazing sex, he took me on days out and dates, which made it feel quite "couple-ey". It's now been almost a year since I've seen him; I was due to visit at Easter but had to cancel due to family emergency. We messaged over the summer however now he's gone quiet. He'd messaged me and sent me photos as I was leaving the country to see my family and I didn't pick it up till I got back to the UK. So i assume he thought I was ignoring him for 2 weeks. I have explained what happened but I understand he might be feeling a bit vulnerable now.
Saw my best friend yesterday and she had been really supportive as she's seen how happy it has made me but she feels it's now dead in the water and that M is "emotionally unavailable" and I need to move on.
Have been to singles nights, speed dating, and joined a club (walking / ramblers) but not met anyone I'm remotely interested in. I just feel so dejected.
How do I move on from this? I have been quite happy just seeing M when our respective kids are away but when I have said I want an arrangement like this on the apps it has attracted lots of really creepy and inappropriate comments from sleazy men, asking if I'm a MILF and do I enjoy weird stuff.
It seems like everyone wants to either be really kinky / sleazy / disrespectful if I say I am looking for a FWB or they want to introduce kids to each other really early on. I can't introduce my kids to a new partner for the forseeable as their dad has had a revolving door of partners since we split up which has really upset them. I just want to have someone I can see when they are away, but someone whose company I enjoy as well as having chemistry with. What would I need to put on my bio for this? When I have tried to put this onto my bio it seems to attract very skeezy men.
I can't be the only one who wants to not have a blended family as soon as is possible but also wants some level of monogamy and long-termness?
And I don't know if I should just completely ditch M as it's going nowhere. Maybe I won't find anyone till I am completely over him?
Thanks for reading!