LTB?

[SaltwaterMama]

Have been married to my DH for less than two years. We've been together for seven. We've never lived together as I have DDs (15&14) from a previous marriage and DD15 has never liked him being in my life. I also think he has a drink problem. Some months back, we were at a party & DD15 left with us to collect some things from my car. DH walked her back to the party. We left because I felt he'd had too much to drink. DD since said that when he was walking her back he out his arm around her waist and slid it down and touched her bum. My DSis, has now said he has done the same to her when he has been drunk. She never liked him either. He has completely denied this & maintains that they will only be happy if I'm alone. WWYD? Please be kind 🙏🏻 I do love him. And in so many ways he's a really good DH. But I am really torn.

What!!

You must must must believe your children here, your relationship will crumble to dust with the pair of them if you don't. Even if the pair of them were teaming up in a plot against him (unlikely), who wants a drunk as a husband?

You and your girls deserve better. Leave.

Edit: I've just realised one accusation was from one daughter, with the other from your sister. MY GOD! There's no way There's even the excuse of your 2 daughters teaming up to have you "alone" then. Seriously, leave right now. This man is a creep and you're in danger.

You have to ask?

Dear lord. I don't normally want to be horrible but you're a terrible mother even debating this. Your poor DD

I do have to ask because in seven years nothing like this has ever happened & she never wanted me to be in a relationship, let alone married. I'm not a terrible Mother. Since my DD told me this she hasn't been near him. He hasn't been near us and my marriage has been put on hold while I think things through. You obviously missed the part where I asked if you could be gentle ...

I understand OP, but I think the other PP is slightly horrified by the fact that you're almost debating sticking with what sounds like a peadophile. Do the right thing, your daughter is more important and your sister probably has very good spidey senses/intuition. 💗

Why would your sister lie about this?

He may well have deliberately targeted you to get access to your daughters.

This must be just awful situation for you OP and have been a total shock to you, I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I think since the allegations have come from two separate people, one of whom (Dsis) has no reason to lie and the other (DD) probably would’ve lied sooner if so inclined or made up something worse than this very believable sounding first step of sexual abuse to rest the water, you have to believe them.

Im afraid it has the ring of truth about it and it will
only get worse if he feels he got away with it. Its sucks and it will be hard but your children and their safety must come first and I think you know that you have to leave him.

Being drunk is NOT an excuse. So many people get drunk and don’t do this because they don’t have those inclinations for lack of inhibition to bring out.

I'm replying again as you think I've been harsh when you've asked people to be gentle.

You say you're torn. That's he's really a lovely man. That's outrageous given what he's done.

Your underage daughter and sister both have said he's made inappropriate sexual advances.

There is nothing to be torn about. Your job is to protect those children. I feel so angry on their behalf and just hope there isn't more to be revealed.

He doesn't sound like a 'lovely husband' he sounds like a drunk who sexually assaulted your sister and your 15 year old daughter. If you don't kick him out right now, you're a negligent and dangerous parent. Are you deluding yourself that both your sister and daughter are lying?

He's got a drink problem and has been inappropriate with both your daughter and your sister?

I really think the decision is obvious. How do you expect your daughter to feel if you stay married to him?

Thanks for all your comments. I needed to read them. I know what I need to do.