My ex reappeared this year and proceeded to ask to see me, saying he really needed to see me, that he had something to tell me and he missed me a lot.
We’be had an on/off situation since we split up in 2021, but I cut him off entirely last year and was seriously dating someone else.
He started emailing me in February this year begging to see me, saying his previous relationships with anyone apart from had failed because they weren’t me. He said his ex girlfriend had broken up with him because he was “obsessed” with me. I stood strong for over a month, declining invites, saying it’s best we left it in the past. But he tried every day and eventually I relented.
When he saw me he said he was sure I was “the one”, that he saw us being together and getting married one day. I said I wasn’t sure and needed time to think. He text me frequently and would get upset if I didn’t want to see him. he organised dates etc. and eventually I said okay let’s give it another go.
all was fine for a week or two and then he just went cold. Just not interested anymore. Fair enough, we’d been here before when we broke up the first time. I sent him a message saying
“I just wondering whether anything’s wrong we you’re very quiet and it seems like we’ve been here before”
he replied “I get it. Yeah sorry I’m not ready for a serious relationship , just need a bit more time to think. I just want to say you’re being so understanding and I appreciate that so much! By the way I have been dating other people when I’ve been seeing you. Just to be honest”
The last line was a knife to the stomach. We’ve been having sex for a few months, he’s re-introduced me back to his family and friends, cleared out a drawer for ne at his house, saw me every weekend, was talking about travelling with me for the next year or so… what the fuck?
I just feel it’s one thing to end something with someone, but to treat someone you’ve had a long relationship history with like a piece of shit and that he’s been lying about dating others?! It just feels like he wanted to upset me.
i text him back saying "its not about you having time to think. its over. i was also sleeping with my ex the first few weeks you kept begging to see me. Just to be honest"
feel like shit and i responded stupidly. ive blocked him everywhere, deleted all message history and deleted his contact.
im so stupid