Hey, so me and my partner have been together for 2.5 years now. I'm currently pregnant and really don't see this relationship working anymore.
Briefly to explain some of our issues, he likes to always be out, his job allows him more flexibility with his day to day time and i work a 9-5 so I'm only free in the evenings but he will most times be busy during these times and we don't spend much time together at all.
I try to sleep around 10am but because he usually ends up coming home after that I stay awake so I can spend some time with him.
Literally 2 nights ago we sat down and had a discussion on our relationships, problems and how we could solve them. And they were that he would focus more on me and our family now and his job, not his friends and just his own entertainment. He said he will make more of an effort to surprise me and things like that and that he will make me a priority. Just to be clear, I know I'm not faultless in this, I get very emotional and cry a lot but I thunk that's because I just want a good, healthy and happy family life with him.
Anyway, last night he kept lying to me saying he would be back in 30 mins, he didn't come home until 1am! He also didn't answer his phone for 3 hours which I spent calling and calling. All the while my anxiety and stress was through the roof. I spoke to his parents and my mum and told them that I can't do this, that I love my baby more than I''ll ever love him and I want my child ti be bought up in a house where there is love and happiness, not what we are doing right now. When he finally came home he kept apologizing and promising that he'll change, bu the always does this, and never changes. I spoke to him briefly last night but tbh there wasn't much I could say but my main points were: that he is evil for not answering his phone once to let me know that he is okay when I'm nearly 7 months pregnant and just ignoring me knowing that I'm calling, I told him that I don't deserve a partner or family life like this I could have met a man who would do these things without hesitation and that he is a child and not ready for a child yet.
Honestly, I'm stuck right now, I feel like a failure if I leave him but he has ruined my whole pregnancy experience and it's one thing I'll never forget, how he has been so nasty to me. I'm just weighing up all the options as currently we stay at my mums and I'll be going on mat leave soon but do not have the funds to sustain myself and the baby as I only get SMP.
I always want to make it clear that for like 80% of the time we get along amazingly and he really is a best friend to me but its just when things are bad they get really bad.
Any help of advice would be greatly appreciated.