Need some advice

helibirdcomp · 20/08/2024 21:27

Well you say you don't live near so this is a great opportunity to meet him and get to know him. Don't change your plans just add him in. HIs reaction to that should give you some insight into his character.

Fivefoottwoooo · 20/08/2024 21:31

Beautyintheeyes · 20/08/2024 21:23

My mum is due to come visit for a big a birthday in a couple of weeks and it’s the first time in years we will have a some time just us. She has recently in the last couple of months told me and my sister she’s split from our dad and then have been split for a few months and seeing other people. However I don’t live near home anymore I’ve never met their partners yet and now my mum is asking can her new partner come to stay. I’m not really keen on this, I’ve just booked a day of tea and cake and going out to places for me and her and actually I feel a bit uncomfortable having not met the guy yet to then just have him come and stay. It’s only 3 nights and two days but I’m not 100%. Anybody had similar situation?

Hey!

Yea something similar. My mum and dad have been apart since I was 6 (I'm 27 now)

My dad remarried a woman after a few years and I love her to bits, but my mums has had some on and off relationships.

Recently she met someone and I've met him twice now. He seems nice but she asked if we wanted to go on a. Trip with her and him and I told her I'd prefer to get to know him a bit better first.

Is there anyway you can express to your mum you would love to meet her new guy but maybe they can plan something special that you can all do another time, perhaps even before the birthday celebration? Either way you could emphasise that you are happy for her and excited to meet him but would really appreciate some girl time with just your mum when she visits x

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Beautyintheeyes · 20/08/2024 21:42

Thank you! I just want to highlight this isn’t to take away from meeting him, but I’m 30 and my parents of 28/9 years broke off I weirdly was accepting of that, but I have been dealing with it in a way they don’t know as they has been lots of dad calling me about mum and mum getting into money problems but then she’s doing and getting all these things so I’ve been I think a bit stressed from that alone I haven’t had the chance to even consider the new dynamic. That being said this is also a massive age gap in which he is younger then me a few years too and whilst I’m very open it’s a little bit uncomfortable not in a mean way just a different way.

so actually having that time with mum was to just have her to enjoy her birthday and maybe get these feelings I had gone so I could meet the new guy when it feels right?

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Fivefoottwoooo · 20/08/2024 21:44

Beautyintheeyes · 20/08/2024 21:42

Thank you! I just want to highlight this isn’t to take away from meeting him, but I’m 30 and my parents of 28/9 years broke off I weirdly was accepting of that, but I have been dealing with it in a way they don’t know as they has been lots of dad calling me about mum and mum getting into money problems but then she’s doing and getting all these things so I’ve been I think a bit stressed from that alone I haven’t had the chance to even consider the new dynamic. That being said this is also a massive age gap in which he is younger then me a few years too and whilst I’m very open it’s a little bit uncomfortable not in a mean way just a different way.

so actually having that time with mum was to just have her to enjoy her birthday and maybe get these feelings I had gone so I could meet the new guy when it feels right?

I definitely think meeting him has to be an occasion of its own x

BananaLambo · 20/08/2024 21:49

She wants to bring him! Let her - embrace the occasion. You can add him to your plans and take the opportunity to meet someone who is clearly making your mum happy. He might well be great fun.