I think I may be aromantic - for anyone who doesn’t know, this is an orientation, where the person does not have a desire for romantic relationships. Similar to asexual but the aromantic still can experience sexual interest /crushes, but just little to no interest in relationships. Sometimes they also don’t have sexual interest. Like most things it’s a spectrum.
I have never really been into relationships, growing up I didn’t get crushes like my friends. I just thought I was a late bloomer. I’m now in my thirties and have had one long term relationship and a few 3 month situationships.
the issue is I’ve never really been that keen on these guys. The man I was in a relationship with I did eventually grow to love but we didn’t have a typical relationship, in that we only ever saw each other once a week and that was enough for me. I really really value my independence and love spending time on my own/having my own space.
I’ve always felt like I was sort of forcing myself to like people and progress things. As you can imagine this has led to a couple of unhappy situations as I was ignoring red flags to force it.
I’m really struggling at the moment due to societal pressure to couple up, get married and have kids, given my age. I feel like this is something I can’t ignore anymore. I am so worried about judgment and people not believing or understanding me. I think I am even judging myself. All I get is pity from people for being single. Most of my friends and colleagues seem obsessed with men whether it be their husband or people they’re dating. I just don’t get it and they clearly don’t get me. I have recently discovered aromantic orientation and feel it may fit.
does anyone have any experience of this either themselves or a friend/family member?