Is it over?

[mech67]

Been a rocky marriage for quite some time now due to disagreements with other half's family and myself not getting on but I've stuck with it despite the lack of affection shown towards me for the sake of our children, recently I've noticed some changes in behaviour, after our latest disagreement I asked her if she still loved me and the reply was she wasn't sure anymore, she purchased kinky underwear the day I left for work and then has hiding them in the back of the wardrobe only reason I knew was I saw the bank transaction, she's also taken a sudden interest in a fitness centre that's she's become involved with through work and wants to start taking one of our children to a class at it, I really don't know what to think as I still love her and try my best to give her and my children as much as I can, just looking for other people's thoughts on the situation

Stuck with it or did some thing to improve the situation?

Some thing about your post doesn’t ring true. I can’t imagine if your wife wanted to hide underwear from you she wouldn’t be able to. Either it isn’t true, or she wanted you to see it, either to try and get your interest or to shock you into realising you could lose her or while she is busy looking after the children all by herself during the school holidays she is planning on having an affair around it. The last one is the least likely.

Well I'm sorry but it is true, what has made you think she has been alone with the children during the holidays?

You said you have children and you’re going away for work. I’m assuming you’re not taking them with you so the logical conclusion is she is looking after them
while your away.

I've been working away for years and it has never affected us before, just her behaviour has changed recently and doing things totally out of context

Just when she is supposed to having this affair?

You seem to want your wife to be at fault. God forbid she wants be fit and healthy.

How can you possibly know how much spare time she has or hasn't? She isn't intending joining a class, she's took the children to an open day at it and now looking to take one to a class, the centre is 20 miles away, similar classes nearby but she mentioned she has been dealing with a guy who's employed or owns it through work

Ignore the weird poster above, if it was a woman they’d be saying leave the bastard.

Sorry to say, but the underwear is a give away, it doesn’t look good.

Thanks very much for your reply, that's my thinking also, too much things have been off with her too list of late

I am so glad that another poster read this and thought the same.

Some posters on Mumsnet wage a war on men.

It sounds suss to me, I'd just ask outright. A class 20 miles away is slightly off but it might just be that she feels comfortable going with someone she knows. The underwear combo is strange though and if it were a woman talking about her husband's sudden interest in the gym and buying new underwear, the automatic response certainly wouldn't be how dare you refuse him the right to stay fit!! 😂😂