Advice needed

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I am looking for some advice.. I am 42 and in. 9 year relationship, we both have 2 kids.
I have my own house mortgaged and my partner sold his 7 years ago and has been in rented since but staying at mine the majority of the time.
He has been told he has 3 months left on his rental and needs to move out.

He wants to buy a house on his own for us all to live in but I really don’t want that. I do not want to live in a house which I don’t own because I personally would not see it as my house/ home but when I said I wanted to buy together he wants me to keep my house as a rental for my retirement however I just feel like I won’t have any security moving into a house I don’t own.
He says he’s found a suitable house but has gone ahead with this on his own and it’s really hurt and upset me.
He tells me all the right things that I’m the only one for him, wants to spend the rest of his life with me, wants to marry me etc etc but I just can’t get over moving into a house that’s not mine.
What are your thoughts or words of advice?

You can do what you want.
He’s bought the house. Let him move in and you stay where you are.

Why do you feel like you have to move in with him?

Potential complication would be he decides to rent it out and suggests he move in with you. If you do want to do that, you should make sure he pays you a nominal amount so that you both benefit from the arrangement.

In all honesty, although you have been together 9 years and he sounds like he is expressing commitment to you, none of us know what lies ahead.in relationships.

You own your own home and that gives you a lot of security. I wouldn't be too quick to trade that in for a shared home. If you ever split up you would have to sell it and downsize.

Move in to his and rent it out, or have him move into yours. But keep your house, it's a wise investment.