Logistics of breaking up

[PinkPeer]

I've been with my partner for five years, we have a 2yo DS. We live together in a rented house, we are joint tenants. I do not work currently, and I receive a disability benefit. My DP works full time, he pays most of the bills and does not let me forget it. He is oblivious to things that I am unhappy with at the moment. He doesn't lift a finger round the house or help me with DS, he controls all the finances. Does what he wants when he wants with no consideration for me. I do all the cooking, all the cleaning, washing etc, ferrying him to and from work (,he doesn't drive) and various other places.

I'm desperately unhappy but I have no where to go and no family of friends close by, I don't have any savings or a proper source of income.

He often tells me when I complain or say when I'm unhappy that "there's the door". I lay the tent so this is my house.

From a legal stand point can he force me to leave?? Can I force him to leave?? What will I do?

Presuming you’re both on the tenancy agreement, neither can force the other to leave. But it’s a very insecure situation to be in, if you’re totally reliant on him paying the rent for the roof over your head. How far away are your family? Would they be supportive of you / be able to offer you even somewhere temporary to stay whilst you work out how you would live independently and what other benefits you might be eligible for?

Please contact Women's aid for advice and support.

I have ready enquired as to benefits and I am in the process of making a separate claim for UC for myself so at least i have some income to pay the bills while I sort things out. My parents are 100iles away nearly and they do not have room for me and my son and ot wouldn't be ideal. I have no friends close by I can turn to.

I recommend you speak to women's aid and also the housing department at your local council. With the financial abuse and your disability, you might be either helped with a deposit or possibly even given housing.

I do all the cooking, all the cleaning, washing etc, ferrying him to and from work

could you not do one of these things for a job then and get an income

Thank you, I did approach the council and they said because I wasn't at risk of physical harm or abuse then I am not a priority and if I leavey house I will be intentionally making my self homeless. I just wanted to know as it was a joint property of he can force me to leave.

I could but I have no childcare fory son and currently I'm not entitled to any help because of my DP earnings though I'm a are this may change with my circumstances.

I'd speak to women's aid about how to approach them again. What you've said about your partner makes me feel like you're at risk of emotional harm. It might be that you're habituated to it, but from an outside perspective it sounds like really shoddy treatment of you.